10 Ways guys can screw up a first date
There are some pretty basic do’s and don’ts for a first date and most of them come down to pure common sense. So why do many guys get it so wrong?! So, here are some basic tips for guys on how to make sure that your first date doesn’t end in disaster:
1. Get there on time, you don’t want to leave a lady waiting for you in the rain
Don’t just be on time, be early. You don’t want to leave her standing out in the rain, waiting for you; and, if you get there a bit early, you will have time to compose yourself, work out the lay of the land, find a nice table, that sort of thing…You’re off to a bad start if you turn up late, so don’t risk it.
2. Don’t drink too much alcohol
You might be nervous and a drink or two may well calm you down and loosen you up a little, but if you’re reaching for your fourth drink, then pull back a little and pace yourself. Falling off your chair might be funny in the bar with your buddies, but it’s not the impression you want to make on a first date.
3. Don’t try to show off, keep it calm and be yourself
You want to make a good impression and show a girl what you are all about, but push it too far and it’ll just be showing off. No one likes the ‘I know it all’ person, who thinks they know everything, so don’t make this basic mistake on a first date. Keep it calm and relaxed; give the lady a chance to talk!
4. Give off an aura of relaxed confidence and dress for the occasion
Go ‘middle of the road’ when it comes to choosing what to wear on a first date. Turning up with your backside hanging out the back of your scruffy jeans will be just as bad, as arriving in starched three piece pinstripe suit! Go with smart, casual attire and you will give off an aura of relaxed confidence.
5. May be not all gentlemen prefer blondes, but both blondes and brunettes usually do prefer gentlemen
So you’ve done your homework and you know that a girl likes to be treated and respected, as an equal. That doesn’t mean that you can treat her like a beer buddy! Common courtesy is still in fashion, so try and be a gentleman, open doors for her and let her go first, because girls still like to be treated as ladies.
6. Avoid talking too much about yourself or she’s just going to be looking for an escape
You’re successful, you love sports, you have loads of money and you might actually be God’s gift to womankind, but if you keep on talking about yourself, she’s going to be calling for a cab. It’s not all about you, so listen to what she says and stop boasting!
7. Don’t turn a date into an ‘in depth’ interview
Asking some questions is fine, but don’t turn into an interrogation. Sometimes guys ask questions, because they can’t think of anything else to say, but if you make a girl feel that she is under the spotlight, it’s going to make her feel uncomfortable and she’s not going to want to come back for a second interrogation.
8. Ditch the phone and don’t worry, the world will still continue to turn
If you are going to put your phone on the table in front of you, then, at least, have the decency to turn it over, so you won’t keep checking for new messages. That little flashing light is going to distract both of you, so turn it over, or even better, switch it off, put it away and don’t worry, the world will still continue to turn.
9. Choose the right location. The bar where you hang out with your buddies, isn’t the good place for the first night of romance
Men often make the mistake of taking a girl somewhere, where they feel comfortable, rather than thinking about what the lady might like. So think about it, the bar where all your buddies hang out, really isn’t the place for the first night of a romance, is it?
10. Don’t expect her to pay
This may be the twenty-first century and your date is quite likely to be able to pay half, but expecting it is asking for trouble. Just be a gentleman and pay up. She will appreciate your generosity.
Well, now, armed with the dating knowledge and tips, you can easily handle your first date with success.
Do you have some other first date tips to share? Please feel free and do so in the comment section below.