When these 10 things happen, you know that your relationship should end
When a relationship ends, people often berate themselves for not seeing the signs earlier. But then, that is human nature, and many people do see the signs, but they choose to ignore them. Some things, though, should not be ignored and they are definite signs that you should, at the very least, be asking yourself some difficult questions about the future of your relationship. Here are ten things that can happen that should be telling you that your relationship might be coming to an end:
1. Abuse, of any kind
One of the most obvious signs of an unhealthy relationship is abuse. Abuse, whether physical or emotional, is completely unacceptable in a relationship. Don’t fall into the trap of ignoring it, or of thinking that things will get better. This is one sign that cannot be ignored, it is a clear sign of lack of respect and that the relationship should end.
2. You would rather be with your friends than with your partner
It’s always great to have good friends, but when you find yourself having far more fun with your friends than you do being with your partner, then you have to ask yourself why this is. This is especially true if you are going out of your way to arrange nights out with your friends, because you just don’t want to be at home with your partner.
3. You don’t hug and kiss like you used to
Next one of obvious signs of an unhealthy relationship is when you no longer share even the simplest, tender moments, then something is definitely going wrong. Kissing and hugging is a normal part of a healthy relationship, but if you have begun to feel that you don’t want to get physically that close to your partner, then that is a sign that you simply have grown apart.
4. You are on autopilot in bed
A lack of physical intimacy is an obvious sign that something is not right, but often couples do still have some lovemaking, even though it has ceased to have any real meaning for them. When lovemaking with your partner becomes nothing more to you than a chore, then that is another sign that it might be time for the relationship to end.
5. You spend more time fighting than you do talking
This is another sign of an unhealthy relationship that, rather strangely, can creep up on you without you really noticing. Some arguments are only to be expected in a relationship. But when those arguments are about anything and everything, and they seem to occur on a daily basis, it is a sign that this is no longer a healthy and happy relationship.
6. You no longer share the events of your day with your partner
Usually, partners will be keen to share the funny or exciting news of their day at work. A sign that you have ceased to care so much about your partner is that you neither want to hear their news nor share your own.
7. You have started to think, seriously, what it would be like to date other people
There is nothing wrong in thinking that other people are good looking, but it is a totally different matter when you start to really think about what it would be like to date them. When that happens, you have moved on from a casual glance, to serious consideration of whether you might not be happier being in a relationship with someone else.
8. You’ve stopped making any effort for your partner
Another one of signs of an unhealthy relationship is when you totally stop caring about how you look for your partner, that is another indicator that the relationship should end. It shows that you no longer think that your relationship is worth making an effort for, so perhaps it’s time to call it a day.
9. You have begun to move along different paths
When a relationship is nearing its end, you will be able to see that you are both already beginning to take separate paths in your lives. You will find that you spend less and less time together and that you no longer include each other in your plans for the future. You are starting to plan your separate lives without each other.
10. You’ve told other people about your doubts
Couples usually keep their differences and arguments to themselves, but when they no longer care who sees them fight, or they discuss their concerns with family or friends, then that is a sure sign that they are having serious doubts about the future of the relationship. In fact, they are probably, subconsciously, paving the way for a split.
What are other signs of an unhealthy relationship?