How To Let Go Of Past Relationships And Be Happy Again
We all want to be happy. Sometimes, it’s a past relationship that prevents us from being happy. In this article we’re going to take a look at what you need to do to let go, move on and experience joy again.
Letting go is hard, especially if you weren’t the one who ended the relationship. Perhaps you wanted to carry on. It’s even harder when the two of you came to a mutual decision to end the relationship. You both wanted to carry on, but the situation had changed. Things happened that made it impossible to continue.
We’ve all been hurt by a relationship ending. At the time and for some time afterwards it really can feel as though you’ll never be happy again. The grief seems enormous; you feel lost, disillusioned, abandoned and totally without hope.
Moving on from a past relationship and being happy again IS possible, though. It all comes down to you and how much you want to move on and experience happiness again. Let’s take a look at how to let go.
Make The Decision That You’re Going To Let Go
You can’t let go and experience closure until you’ve made the decision to let go. Until you make this your goal and put it in writing, you’ll keep falling back, and immersing yourself in sad memories. This can cause pain, and can even make you feel as though your grief truly will be everlasting.
It’s only when we make moving on our goal that we really do move on. Put it down in writing. Tell yourself each day that you are letting go from now on. Make a commitment to yourself to aspire to new things. Tell your friends that you won’t be talking about your last relationship anymore, and ask them to snap you out of it if you do.
It’s all about being assertive with yourself. Until you give yourself some orders to forget and move on, until you boss yourself around a little, you’ll find it hard to let go.
Stop Being The Victim
If you’re reading this article, we’re going to guess that you’ve cast yourself in the role of victim. This is normal. Lots of us do this when we’ve been broken up with. We feel sorry for ourselves, and like others to feel sorry for us too.
However, the world only ever cares for a short while. Yes, people will be sad for you at first. But they won’t feel sorry for you forever. And your ex who you’re pinning the blame on for your hurt feelings? They felt bad at first. But the more you mope and moan, the more likely it is that they’ll shut you off altogether, perhaps by deleting you from their social media account.
It’s easy to blame others for a breakup. But while doing this might make you feel a tad better at the time, it’s going to curtail any chance of happiness.
Remember That Positivity Always Wins
After a bad breakup, it’s easy to think that we’ll never feel happiness ever again. Right now, we feel bitter and scorned. But instead of allowing yourself to be overcome by feelings of negativity, and instead of plotting revenge or making your ex feel bad, you must remember that a positive mindset is what creates happy realities.
All happy people experienced setbacks, and many of them probably went through what you’re going through right now. But they overcame negative thoughts by thinking positively.
Don’t be angry at your ex. Be happy for them. See the best in them and wish them good luck. Let go of negative energy.
Switch focus to your own future, and remind yourself that you still have so much going for you. The future can still be bright. You have so much to offer.
Learn To Forgive
One of the reasons why we find it so hard to move on from a relationship is that we are unable to forgive. We’re hurting, and we don’t want to forgive.
When you don’t forgive, you are punishing two people – the other person and yourself. You’re suffering too, because you aren’t giving yourself the chance to move on from this and start afresh.
Picture what your life would look like if you could forgive, forget and move on. You’d no longer be burdened by the past; you’d no longer feel hurt or anger. Instead, you’ll be free to be happy again.
Accept That People Come And Go
Some people marry their childhood sweethearts and stay with them all their lives. But for a lot of us, the cosmos blesses us with a variety of people who come and go as the cosmos ebbs and flows.
Different people come in and out of your life at the right time. As one door closes, another opens. Knowing this will allow you to be at peace with the universe. Give yourself up to destiny and put your trust in faith. If people leave your life, it simply means the chapter they shared with you is over. Now it’s time to open another one.
Smile That It Happened
There is a quote by Dr Seuss that we love at Beauty and Tips:
“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.”
A lot of the time, we’re so focused on the negativity of a relationship coming to an end that we forget to appreciate that it even happened in the first place.
But you have so many great memories to cherish.
Take The Positives
Many of us sure are guilty of always taking the negatives from situations and ignoring the positives. But positives can be plucked from any situation – even ones as painful as a breakup.
Yes, a relationship coming to an end can hurt us, leaving us grief-stricken, lost and lonely. But you’ve also had the chance to learn more about yourself and other people because of this relationship, and you’ve also grown as a person.
Use the things you’ve learned to help you as you embark on a new chapter in your life. Look at your past relationship as just another pit-stop on your road to becoming. Use the rich experiences as lessons to keep improving and bettering yourself. If you made mistakes during the relationship, make sure you avoid them the next time around.