10 Amazing Successful Marriage Tips and Secrets
Many people think marriage comes gift-wrapped with all the trimmings. But it doesn’t; marriage comes in kit form, which means that you both have to work at it.
Maintaining a successful marriage is not easy and takes time, effort, patience and communication. There will be rough times to go along with the good times. As the old saying goes, “the only place you will find success before work is in the dictionary.”
If you are going through a difficult time at the moment in your marriage, or if you’re preparing to get married soon and are looking for a few pointers on how to make it last forever, let’s take a look at 10 amazing and proven tips for a happy and successful marriage.
No marriage can be successful without mutual trust. Trust is indeed your foundation from which everything else is built. If you don’t have trust, how are you going to communicate with each other? If you don’t have trust, how are you going to share happiness?
It takes time to build trust. Building trust means doing everything possible to alleviate all doubt from the mind of your spouse. It means always being honest and upfront with them; it means never flirting with the opposite sex; it means never deceiving them by going behind their back. It also means that you’re open and honest with their friends and family too.
Yes, your spouse is going to do things that seem unforgivable at first. They’re going to upset you and make you seethe with anger. But for the health of your relationship, it’s important that you learn to forgive and let it go, especially when their indiscretion is actually pretty minor in the grand scheme of things. Holding a grudge is not a key to a successful marriage.
Always Pay Attention
It’s easy to get distracted when someone else is talking to us; it’s easy to switch off and start fidgeting with out fingers. This shows a lack of respect to the other person, and it shows that you aren’t really interested in what they’ve got to say.
You absolutely should always pay attention to what your spouse has to say. Mutual respect is essential for a happy marriage, and this means giving your partner your undivided attention whenever they are talking to you. It means listening patiently to everything they have to say, asking them questions and making sure they’re okay. It means giving up your time and dropping everything to listen to them.
It’s You Two vs. The World
It’s important to remember that you should not sharpen your knives for each other when you’ve got bigger enemies and obstacles to face up to. Work together, help each other, and choose your battles carefully. You need to have each other’s back.
Make It Fun
A boring marriage is a stultifying marriage; it’s an unhappy marriage, an unsuccessful marriage.
As such, you need to make sure that you do fun things together.
This can be hard once the honeymoon is over and you’ve both returned to work. After a few months, you begin to establish a routine of monotony. This is when resentment can start to creep in, and the arguments begin.
It’s important that you make time for fun activities. Perhaps you could go to a theme park at the weekend, the cinema after work, or perhaps even just go for a walk on Sunday morning. Make sure you do something.
Sometimes, it’s the simple gestures that make us feel appreciated and respected. Saying “please” and “thank you” to your spouse might sound incredibly formal, but it shows that you respect and appreciate them.
All too often, couples forget the polite formalities. They lose respect for one another, and start using vulgar phrases such as “Oi!” Although it might seem humorous to the person saying it, it shows a lack of respect; it shows a disintegration of values, and of the marriage.
At the end of the day, you’re polite to a strange, so why wouldn’t you be polite to your life partner?
Avoid Saying “I Told You So”
Everyone hates the phrase “I told you so.” It reminds us of childhood when our annoying sibling would use it over and over again. It’s a phrase that, particularly when used often, really gets on our nerves and makes us want to scream.
Spouses should never uses this phrase. The person in the wrong already knows they’ve made a mistake, so there is no need to rub things in. Saying “I told you so” will only foster ill-feeling and give rise to resentment. It’s petty and needless. Avoid.
Handle Your Finances Well
One of the prime reasons why married couples fall out is because of poorly managed finances and budgets. If you don’t agree on your spending beforehand, things could easily get out of control. While you might want to cutback on spending this month, your spouse may have other ideas.
It’s important to discuss all money matters before you get married. Who will be in charge of paying the bills? What is your monthly budget going to look like? Do you both want to build up some savings? Should get get a credit card?
Don’t Forget To Make Love
There will come a time in your marriage when one of you wants to make love while the other is too exhausted.
But rather than groan that you’re way too tired to make love right now, it’s important for a happy and successful marriage that you make room for a bit of nookie. You need to remember that there are two people in this marriage, and that you have to make sacrifices now and then for your partner. You need to give them what they want. You might not be in the mood for it, but you never know; you might just enjoy it.
Lastly, you need to work hard if your marriage is going to stand the test of time. Elbow grease is required – lots of it!
There are two types of love: Passionate, obsessive love, and romantic love. While passionate love generally fades quickly, romantic love tends to endure. But to make sure that it endures, you need to be prepared to get your hands dirty with some hard work. And if you care about your marriage and your spouse, you will certainly do just that. So get to it!