10 Helpful Tips on How to Get Over a Breakup
Breakups: they happen to all of us. Some are worse than others, but there’s definitely one thing we can all agree on: they suck. Urban myth makes the claim that the mourning period after a break-up will equal half the length of the entire relationship (RIP). Maybe it’s just us, but that seems like a ridiculously long amount of time to sit around eating Cherry Garcia and watching Netflix. Gaining ten pounds and turning our brains into sludge probably isn’t going to boost our self-esteem – and wouldn’t we rather our ex see how much fun we’re having without them? Step away from the junk food, put down the pinot, and say goodbye to Bridget Jones. We know all the best way to deal with your heartbreak and use it as a reason to become a cooler, more interesting person.
Wait, what? Don’t worry; we’ll explain the method behind our madness. We consider this step a preventative measure. You just had a break-up, and sooner or later you’re going to forget why it happened in the first place. As soon as your break-up happens, go through all of your text messages, emails, and messenger chats to pin point exactly what your ex did that was so awful. Save it all, and keep it in a document that is easily accessible. This way, the next time your ex sends you a text on a Saturday night inviting you out for a drink, you can open up sayno.doc and recount all the reasons why your ex is, well, your ex.
That’s right – we’re not advocating for donuts, ice cream, chocolate or wine – sorry! While comfort food may be a good way to handle your sadness in the short term, it will only end up making you feel worse in the end. Instead, join the local gym or take your dog out for a run in the park. Not only will exercising boost your endorphins (the naturally-produced chemical that makes you happy!), it will keep your body tight and your self-esteem at an all-time high.
Go on dates – with your besties
Sometimes we all end up on rebound dates, and occasionally they can be a good way to relieve stress and have a little fun. However, it’s always a good idea to embrace being single once in a while, and who better to do that with than your closest friends? Round up your squad, and go on fun adventures that will end up inducing envy all over Instagram. Start off at the skating rink, go see a movie, and then find a cool new restaurant where you can kick back with some food and plan exciting trips together for the upcoming months. Don’t hesitate to smile back at the cute waiter!
Now that you’ve got some time to yourself, why not hit the mall and plan your big reinvention? No need to break the bank, either. It only takes a little window shopping to get the creative juices flowing so you can imagine styling yourself in a new way that pushes your comfort zone. Try on something you’ve never tried before.
Get a promotion
Now that someone else isn’t monopolizing your evenings and weekends, you’re going to have a lot of extra energy – so why not use it to get yourself promoted? Take the opportunity to throw yourself into your career. Arrive a little earlier, stay a little later, and attend some networking events to meet new people in your field.
Find a cool new hobby
Remember when you wanted to try rock climbing but your partner wasn’t interested? No need to worry about that now! Join a club, learn a new skill, and you might even make some new friends along the way. Not only will you find a cool way to spend your extra time, you might find an activity that you love!
Go on a date
Now that you’ve fully embraced spending time with your best friends and with yourself, why not meet some new people? Dating can be scary and awkward, but it can also be a pretty fun way to meet new people, try different activities, and eat great food!
We know, Tinder can really be the worst. Behind the safety of a screen, people aren’t always the nicest – and sometimes are actually the sleaziest. Keeping that in mind, we live in a technology-oriented society in which more and more people are making real romantic connections online. We get the appeal, too – you can view mutual friends (so you can do a social background check on your potential date) and you can match by interests, hobbies, or even political and religious views. While these are all really useful ways to filter out the crazies, don’t forget to keep an open mind – sometimes opposites do attract.
Make healthy ice cream, and binge
While turning your emotional distress into a food-binge is probably a bad idea, we can’t make you avoid ice cream altogether. It’s kind of a break-up staple, right? To help you out, we’ve found a recipe that will satisfy your breakup-induced craving while keeping the calories (and the guilt) at an all-time low. Grab a bunch of bananas, peel, chop, and freeze for a few hours. Remove from the freezer, and toss into the blender. Add some honey or sugar, cocoa powder, and a bit of cinnamon to taste. Your faux-ice cream will have a creamy texture, fabulous flavor, and all of your daily-recommended potassium! This is a win, guys.
This is like a hobby, but even better. There are hundreds of wonderful charities, both local and international, that are always looking for new volunteers. Not only is volunteering a cool way to spend your free time and give back to society, you might even make some new friends. You’ll also feel great about yourself for helping others, which will make it very easy to forget about why you’re feeling sad. What break-up?