Can A Long Distance Relationship Really Last?
Thinking of entering into a long distance relationship recently and wondering if it can really last? In this article, Beauty and Tips explore the nature of long distance relationships and answer the big question: Can they really last?
If you’ve fallen in love with someone who lives a long way away from you, we know how bittersweet the feeling can be. You’re in love, so it’s exciting. But at the same time, an edge has been taken off things because you know they live so far away.
You won’t get to wake up each morning and hear the beat of their heart, feel the warmth of their breath, or listen to their first words of the day.
They won’t be there when you return after work either.
It’s upsetting, and these small but brilliant moments are just some of the things you’ll be missing out on.
And thinking too much about them can cause you to ask whether or not getting into a long distance relationship is going to be worth it.
The biggest worry we all have when it comes to long distance romances, though, is whether or not it will last.
The statistics at least are on your side: Long distance relationships do last. 14,000,000 American’s currently say they are in a long distance relationship. If 14 million people can make it work, there is no reason you can’t make it work either.
So Why Do So Many People Advise Against Long Distance Relationships?
If you’ve asked your parents and friends for advice on the subject, the chances are they’ve told you that you probably shouldn’t get involved in a long distance romance.
“Why don’t you just find someone who lives closer by? It’d be so much easier.”
But with SO many people enjoying lasting long distance relationships, why do people still advise against them.
Well, we’re all different. What proved to be an easy-to-overcome obstacle for some might be a bridge too far for you. In other words, there are many difficulties that long distance lovers face, and many trials and tribulations that other couples don’t have. And you need to be sure that can hurdle these challenges.
One of the biggest issues you need to wrestle with is growing apart.
It’s much easier for couples in a conventional relationship to grow together, because they spend a lot of time with each other. Maybe they even live together. There is no need to schedule daily calls or plan when the best times to text are.
When you live far apart, it’s a lot harder to maintain the levels of communication necessary to ensure that you grow together. You have to be committed to involving your partner in each aspect of your life. You have to be willing to clear up your schedule for Skype calls, and maybe stay up late into the night.
At times, it can take its toll. And when it does, the two of you may grow apart. It can get to the point where things are happening in your life that you haven’t told your partner about. You just haven’t yet found the time.
Maintaining A Communication
To make sure the two of you don’t grow apart, it’s really important that you find ways of maintaining communication.
For two people who live miles apart, this means scheduling phone calls or Skype calls. Not everyone likes doing this, because the idea of scheduling kills spontaneity. That’s true. But in a long distance relationship, things are different. And unless you schedule and prioritise, it can be hard to maintain communication.
Make sure that you schedule regular calls. Put some time aside for texts and emails. Life will get in the way at times, which is why it’s important that you prioritise communicating with your partner. Otherwise, it will get put on the back burner, and you may find that you’ve gone a few days without talking.
Another big issue you’ll need to deal with is how much you can trust your partner now that you live so far apart.
Not everyone is capable of trusting their partner in long distance romances. After periods of not talking, it’s hard for them to keep a level head. If they haven’t heard from their partner after a night out, they begin to probe them with questions:
“You were home so late, and you expect me to believe that you didn’t bring a girl back?”
You must learn to trust your partner if you want a long distance relationship to work. If you can’t, it’s doomed from the start.
You won’t be there when they return home after a night out. You won’t be with them when they go out for drinks. And they won’t always text. And you need to be comfortable with that.
Being in a long distance relationship doesn’t mean you’ll never get to see them. There will be times when you can visit them and they can visit you. And when you do see each other, make sure you make the most of it.
Try to arrange as many visits as possible. Plan things in advance so that you have things to look forward to.
If one of you keeps making excuses for why you can’t see each other too often, it really can put the dampener on long distance romances. So make exciting plans!
It’s also really important that you stay positive as much as possible. There will be moments when you feel sad. But if you can stay positive when talking to your partner, it will benefit the relationship.
If You Really Love Them …
If you really love them and you know they’re totally worth getting into a long distance relationship with, there is no reason why you can’t make this work.
People all over the world right now are in loving, happy and long-lasting relationships. Wives and husbands met their partners on the Internet from different countries and got married. It happens. You can make it happen, too.