8 ways guys say “I love you” without even saying it
A lot of guys don’t say ‘I love you’ very often. They feel a bit awkward about it and it goes against the masculine grain. Or is it more perhaps because they’re afraid of rejection and feeling a bit foolish, a bit scared that after months of working up the courage to say it, all they get back is a gentle ‘Oh, that’s nice’ or ‘thank you’. But don’t be worried, if your guy is a little backward in coming forward with those three little words that you’re longing to hear. You might just have to make do with some of the more subtle ways that he’s showing you his love, for the time being anyway. Let’s begin:
1. He likes to be around you
You can’t expect him to give up all his friends and pastimes, but if he’s choosing to spend time with you instead of his buddies, then you’re off to a good start. If he chooses to be with you and to share some of the things that you know he doesn’t enjoy, like doing the chores or going shopping, then he’s really making a statement.
2. His friends like you
To begin with, he will confide in his friends far quicker than he will confide in you. If his friends have warmed to you, then that is a good sign that he has told them how much that he thinks of you and that they know how happy you make him feel.
3. Body language
Body language says it all. We all hate it when a stranger invades our personal space, but when you find that your man is constantly close by your side and seeking physical contact with you, he’s doing it for a reason, it’s one of the ways he’s saying ‘I love you’.
4. The lingering kiss
You can tell that a man really loves you, when he wants to kiss for kissing’s sake and not just as a precursor to the next step, when he just wants to enjoy a moment of intimacy.
5. Hand holding
Hand holding is a way of a man sending you a secret, encoded message. A limp and cold hand-hold is saying ‘I think that this is what is expected of me’ whereas a tender, yet firm, hold with the occasional little squeeze for no real apparent reason, is his way of quietly saying ‘I love you’.
6. Calling you up for no reason
If you are wondering to yourself why he called you on the phone for no apparent reason, take a hint!
7. Eye contact
People are very guarded about who they make intimate eye contact with. It’s almost as if we fear that if our eyes stay connected with a person for too long, they will be able to see inside our heads or our soul…When a man looks deeply into your eyes, not only he’s showing you his trust, he’s trying to quietly communicate his adoration to you.
8. He shares his secrets
Girls might share intimate secrets freely with their girlfriends, but men rarely do that. They prefer to keep their macho image intact by keeping the book closed, so if a guy starts to share his innermost fears with you, he’s telling you that he loves you and trusts you enough to be able to open up to you.
Many men are still brought up with the idea that men don’t cry and men aren’t ‘soppy’ or ‘soft, so the simple phrase ‘I love you’ is not an easy one for them. But, when that phrase does eventually come from such a man, you can be sure that it is heartfelt and represents a true commitment. So bide your time, there’s no rush. Better to receive a meaningful ‘I Love you’ than a flippant and insincere one.
What on your opinion other ways guys say ‘I love you’ without even saying it? Feel free to share your thoughts and relationship advice in the comment section below.