8 Warning signs of an unhealthy relationship to watch out for at the beginning 

Sometimes we can look at a friend or just someone we know and ask ourselves why on earth she puts up being treated the way she does by her partner. Sometimes it’s just the blindness of love and, sadly, other times it’s that an individual has never known a healthy relationship with a man, so they think that what they are experiencing is perfectly normal.

But, if you are aware of the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship, you can spot the potential for trouble early on in your amour and, as forewarned is forearmed, here are some of the things that might set the alarm bells ringing:

1. The Secrets

Couples should always be open with each other and where there is one secret, there may be many. If he’s keeping secrets from you, then you need to ask yourself why.

2. The Control

Love is about compromise and compassion, not control. If a man tells you what to wear and where you can and cannot go, then he is a potential control freak and could lose his temper, if you ever go against his will.

3. The Trust

Trust is an implicit part of a loving relationship and that works both ways. If he’s checking your emails or you don’t trust him when he goes out on his own, then something is not right.

4. The Arguing

Every relationship will have its ups and downs and that’s only natural, but if you are constantly fighting and, especially, if this fighting is over the smallest of things, then this is one of the sure warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.

5. The Blaming

Constantly looking for a reason to blame the other person in a relationship is definitely not a good sign. Forgive and forget should be the bywords, and constant blaming of one another might suggest that one of you is looking for a way out.

6. The Insults

Insults hurt and why would you hurl on at someone that you care about? Even in a really angry exchange of views, there are some things a loving couple would never say to each other. If you find yourself constantly exchanging snipes and insults with your partner, something needs to be done; be aware, it’s one of the warning signs of an unhealthy relationship.

7. The Communication

Once the talking stops, then nothing can be resolved. With no communication, there simply is no relationship; so, if you are simply sharing the house but nothing else, then this relationship is going nowhere.

8. The intimacy

Of course, intimacy is an important part of a healthy relationship and no intimate contact would indicate a problem but, equally, if all the relationship seems to be about bedroom, then someone is being used.

Most of these warning signs of an unhealthy relationship seem so obvious when you read them in the cold light of day, but sometimes, in the very early stages of a relationship, you don’t notice them or you push them out of your mind. Spotting them early though could save you a whole lot of heartache later or, heaven forbid, even worst.

I hope you find this relationship advice useful.

What other warning signs of an unhealthy relationship do you know? Feel free to share your relationship advice in the comment section below.

Stay happy!


  1. Anonymous
    November 29, 2015 at 9:22 am

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  2. Anonymous
    January 25, 2014 at 10:28 am

    Good stuff as always!

  3. Salma
    January 17, 2014 at 6:12 pm

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