10 Things you should never give up for a relationship
When you fall in love, it feels like you would do absolutely anything for the other person, but there has to be limits. No matter how much you want a relationship to work, there are some things that you should simply never compromise on. Here are ten things that you should never give up for a relationship, however good you might think it is:
1. Your personal ambitions, dreams and goals
A relationship should be something in which you can nurture your dreams, not just throw them away. It’s only jealous and insecure people who try and stifle their partner’s ambitions, goals and dreams, and that is not the sign of a healthy relationship.
2. Your right to make decisions for yourself
Compromise is important in a relationship, but compromise is not the same as giving in, all the time. You have a right to make your own decisions in life and this should never be given up for a relationship.
3. Your right to be who you are
Don’t give up your individuality either, because that is what makes you who you are. You are more than just another person’s partner; you are a person in your own right and you have every right to express that.
4. Your friends and family
Everyone needs friend outside of the partnership and you are quite entitled to go out with friends or visit family too. Having a life, outside of the partnership, is healthy and you should never be asked to forgo that.
5. Your self-respect
Never allow yourself to be treated with no respect. If you feel that you are not being treated with decency and respect, then that is a sure sign that this is a relationship that would be better off out of.
6. Some time alone
Even in the perfect relationship, you will want some time to yourself. You should be able to spend time pursuing your hobbies and interests and getting some me-time. If you are giving this special time up altogether for a relationship, then you will regret it and resent it at some point in time.
8. Dressing the way that you like
Dressing to look nice for your partner is fine, but you should never allow yourself to be told how to dress. That would be demeaning and controlling, so don’t let that happen to you.
8. Your financial independence
When you are in a long term relationship, you often do have common finances, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t have money of your own. Don’t give up your own bank account or settle for a condescending ‘allowance’. That sort of thing went out years ago.
9. Your beliefs and your right to an opinion
Your beliefs and opinions are yours alone and there is no reason why should conform to those of your partner. Never give up your right to vote for who you will, follow which religion you wish, or to be able to disagree with your partner.
10. Your happiness
Never stay with a partner because it is convenient, or because you are afraid of a life without them. Your own happiness is the most important thing that there is so, if you are in an unhappy relationship, get the heck out!