10 Things to remember when you’ve been hurt in a relationship
How to heal a broken heart? Heartbreak is one of the worst things that anyone can suffer and it can take a long time to get over it. It feels like the whole world is falling down around your ears and you think that you will never be able to be happy again. If you are going through the pain of heartbreak right now, then we’re not going to tell you that the hurt will go away tomorrow, because it won’t, but it will in time. So, in the meantime, here are ten things to bear in mind, while things get better for you:
1. Remember, you’re only human
Remember, you are only human and all humans make mistakes. It is unlikely that it’s your entire fault and it may not be your fault at all, so stop blaming yourself for everything, and forgive yourself, if you have made mistakes.
2. There is nothing wrong with having a cry
Allow yourself the time to grieve. Don’t bottle things up and don’t pretend that you don’t care; there is nothing wrong with having a cry. You are going to be upset and you are going to feel vulnerable right now, so accept those emotions for the moment, they are perfectly natural.
3. Stop thinking about ‘what ifs’…stop going over and over things in your mind
You can’t change anything by thinking over and over again about how you might have done things differently. You might think that this will help you come to terms with what has happened but, at some point, you must let go and move on.
4. Remember that you are beautiful, special and unique
Someone has hurt you and that is not a nice feeling, but, remember the one thing that you do still have is you and that’s a really special thing. Don’t allow what someone else has done to change who you are, because you are a beautiful and special person and you are far more, than just a relationship.
5. Think of it as just one small chapter in a very long story…you still have a lot to look forward to
It may be difficult to think about it right now, but you still have the rest of your life in front of you and that’s a long time. There are a million and one things for you to do in your life yet, with or without that particular partner, so try and think of this as just one small chapter in a very long story.
6. Remind yourself that there were bad times too
Don’t spend all your time reminiscing about the good times; remember to remind yourself about the bad times too. It’s easy when you’ve been hurt to reminisce about the sweet and lovely times you had with your ex but, really, was it all good?
7. You can have fun when you’re single
One thing that might be playing on your mind is a fear of being single again. Remember that being a single girl can be fun and it’s probably the best thing for you for a while. You don’t have to have a man on your arm to be happy, there is actually more to your life than just whom you are with.
8. Don’t forget your friends and family; mix with other people
You probably feel like locking the door and staying at home on your own, but don’t forget that you have friends and family. It is usually good to talk about your feelings to someone that you trust; they have probably been there as well. If you don’t feel like talking about it, then mixing with other people will still help get your mind off things, so don’t isolate yourself for too long.
9. Pull yourself into the present
The pain that you feel when you have been hurt in a relationship is more of a grief for what has happened in the past, rather than a current emotion. The worst thing that you can do is to dwell on the past, so remember to bring yourself back to the present and occupy your mind with things going on now.
10. Remember that it’s not all been a waste of time; one day, you’ll understand that you emerged from it a stronger and better person
You might be feeling that all the time that you have spent in a relationship that ended badly has been wasted, but it hasn’t. There must have been some good times, or you wouldn’t be hurting; and remember, above all else, you have learned from this experience. It’s hard and it’s painful, but, one day, you will look back on the recent events and understand that you emerged from it a stronger and better person.
How to heal a broken heart? Do you have some other relationship advice and tips?