10 Signs That You Are In A Happy, Strong And Unbreakable Relationship
One of the things many of us long for in life is a healthy and strong relationship that is sure to last. The problem is that relationships are not exactly easy. They don’t come in kit form, with assembly parts that you put together. Instead, they have to be worked on, nurtured, and both partners have to give it their all.
Ups and downs come and go, as do arguments. And although there are certainly no shortage of unhealthy, breakable relationships out there, there are also lots of happy ones too. To find out how healthy your relationship really is, let’s take a look at 10 signs that you are in a happy, strong and unbreakable relationship.
You Respect One Another’s Personal Space
As a couple, you’re obviously going to spend a lot of time together. You sleep together, wake up together, eat breakfast together, shower together, take walks together, and sometimes even work together.
This is a lot of togetherness, and whilst this is nice, each of you does need your own personal space. There will be a time when your partner wants to go golfing by himself, and times when you want to do something by yourself too. Respecting one another means giving each other space, and not getting angry whenever one of you wants to do something alone.
You Trust One Another
Bad relationships are built on distrust. If your partner can’t go out for the evening, without you jumping into the car to follow him, you’ve got issues. And you’ve definitely got a breakable relationship.
A good sign of a strong, happy relationship is the ability to trust one another. You trust your partner to be faithful to you, but you also trust him with other things too. This can be anything, from doing things you ask of him to always being by your side whenever you need him. You trust him to never let you down.
Silence Is Golden
When you were dating, silence was awkward.
Now, it’s golden.
You can both sit back and relax after a long day at work and enjoy the movie. Hush, this is the good bit!
You Fight The Right Way
In a relationship, there are two ways to fight: the right way and the wrong way.
The wrong way to fight means wanting to win all the time. It’s about you (or him) putting your point across in such a way that you absolutely will not be wrong. You are right about this and all you need to do is make sure they understand this.
The right way to fight means listening and understanding the other person. It means learning more about where they are coming from, and respecting their opinion. It means reaching a compromise. It doesn’t mean taking the glory, being selfish and winning.
You Can Talk About Anything Together
If there are subjects that are strictly off-limits between the two of you, you might have a few problems. For example, if you can’t talk to your partner about your fears and anxieties, what does it say about the state of your relationship? It says that it doesn’t have much longevity.
Key to a strong relationship is that you are both able to discuss everything together. A happy relationship is one where you know you can speak your mind without feeling bad about it, and where you can point things out to your partner without worrying that he will flip. You need openness and honesty.
You Share Your Friends
When you’re in a relationship, it can be difficult to maintain your friendships. After all, you now somehow have to fit seeing all your friends into a life that is now centred on your new partner.
Doing this is tricky, but it’s important that you share your friends with them. If you’re the type of person who prefers to see your friends without your partner in tow, it’s a warning sign that not everything is rosy with your relationship. You should be able to go out together, with your friends and his, and bring your social circles into one circle. If you don’t want your partner to hang around with your friends, there could be a reason for this, and it could be that you don’t trust him enough.
Your Basic Values Are The Same
If you’re family oriented and he doesn’t even like the concept of a family, you might have a problem on your hands. Likewise, if you’re an animal lover and he gets fidgety around dogs and cats, there is going to be trouble in the long term.
A sign that you are in a happy relationship is that your basic values and life goals are the same. You both want a house together, kids, pets and so on. Or it could be the opposite, and you both want to travel the world, and live without the restraints of children and pets. Whatever it is, you both need to be singing from the same hymn sheet. There might be no trouble just yet, but it will come.
Your Encourage One Another
A good sign that your relationship is at breaking point is when he tells you that he’s going to quit his job to become as starving artist, and you throw a vase at his head, telling him to “get real.”
Couples in a strong relationship are those who actively encourage one another to do better, and to follow their dreams. If your relationship is rock solid, you will be able to make decisions together, as opposed to you saying you’re going to do one thing and him saying “No, you’re not!”
You Don’t Need To Pretend You Like What He Likes
Perhaps when you first got together, you were all like, “Oh, sure, I just LOVE playing the X-box.” You said it just to keep up his interest. The reality, though, is that you don’t like everything he likes. And now is the time for him to know.
Couples in a strong relationship don’t have to pretend they have the exact same mutual interests. There can – and should – be differences. If you don’t like playing on the X-box, no problem; he can play on it, whilst you do your thing. You’re both happy with this situation and that’s how it’s meant to be. No one should feel forced into having to do something.
You Don’t Need To Make Plans
When you were dating, it was all about making plans. Perhaps you went to the cinema one week and the amusement park another.
Now that you’re in a strong relationship, though, you don’t need to make any plans. Instead, the fun and contentment is just being together. You can idle the day away on the sofa together, or you can spontaneously head out on an adventure. It doesn’t matter what you do; all that matters is that you do it together.