10 Reasons Why The Smarter You Are, The Harder It Is For You To Fall In Love
Being smart is good. But could it be costing you a love life?
When we’re young, falling in love seems to be so easy. We meet a boy we like, he likes us back, and we kiss after class. Then he takes us out for a burger before walking us home under the stars.
As we get older, things become more complicated. We have a past, and so does he. We both have responsibilities, and there never seems to be enough hours in the day to squeeze a bit of romance into our hectic professional lives.
And although you’d think that being smarter and wiser would make it easier for us to fall in love, the opposite is true.
Yep, as it turns out, the smarter we are, the harder it can be to fall in love.
Doesn’t make much sense? Let’s take a look at 10 reasons why the smarter you are, the harder it is for you to fall in love.
Because You Can Be Intimidating
No offence intended at all, but smart women can be super intimidating to guys.
They can be intimidating to smart guys (it’s not often that a guy wants to date a girl who is smarter than him!), as well as guys who are – for want of a better word – dim.
Smartness is great. But sometimes, too much smartness can actually put a guy off.
You’re Okay With Being Alone
Love can cause us to make crazy, irrational decisions – such as getting with a guy who isn’t right for us, simply because we’re scared of being left on the shelf.
Not all of us can handle being alone. And this fear of being alone means we sometimes stick it out with a relationship we know has no future.
Smarter girls, however, are savvy enough to know that it’s better to be alone than to be with the wrong man. As such, they wait until the right moment.
A consequence of this is that the “right moment” may never come.
You’re Pretty Sure Of Who You Want
Sometimes, we just don’t know what we want from a man, let alone what we want from a relationship. And it is this uncertainty that can cause us to date a guy we probably would never have considered a few years back.
But hey ho, sometimes it turns out that opposites attract and we fall in love.
However, smart people know exactly what they want. They can be hyper-analytical, and if a guy doesn’t meet their specific criteria, they’re probably not going to give him a chance.
While this can seem like a pretty efficient way of dating, it could also mean that you miss out on love, because you weren’t willing to give someone a chance.
You Want A Career
Yes, the world has changed a lot since the 1950’s when it was literally the woman’s job to spend her whole life in the kitchen. But even in 2017, a lot of women like to play the role of the housewife – and a lot of guys are totally cool with this.
So when you come along and want a career all of your own, it can be off-putting to some guys.
And Sometimes You’ll Put Work First
Some guys (and even some girls) still can’t get their heads around the fact that some women genuinely enjoy working. You don’t always go to work because you have to – you sometimes go to work because you actually want to.
And when this happens, it can cause disharmony in a relationship. Your partner wants you to spend more time with him, time that you’re sometimes reluctant to give up. He just doesn’t realise how important work is to you.
Smart people are very good at thinking on their feet and being self-sufficient. They can be independent and make it work.
They’re not necessarily on the lookout for a guy to provide for them – they can take care of themselves quite easily.
As such, smart people aren’t always in a rush to find someone. They can live alone, they can pay their rent, and they’ve more often than not got job security.
Moreover, they happen to enjoy this level of independence and self-sufficiency.
You’re Not Easily Understood
A tad painful, but true.
You’ve Got Other Things Going On In Your Life
Smart people generally have a lot going on in their lives. They’ve got classes to go to, books to read, people to see, events to visit, and lots of things to do.
They make plans and they get things done.
As a consequence, they don’t always have a lot of time in their life to spend with a guy.
Smart people love life. They love to explore, and they love to learn. And they can quite easily spend hours on end in a good book.
So they don’t always have the time or energy to devote to the dating scene. They might fire off a message to a guy, before losing track of time as they finish off a novel. All the while, the guy is wondering where the heck they’ve got to.
You Can Be Quite Distracted
Some guys love it when girls give them a lot of attention.
Okay, a lot of guys love it when girls give them lots of attention.
So when you don’t reply to a text messages for hours on end because you got distracted by something else you’re interested in, it can make the guy question whether this is really worth it.
You Know Why Relationships End
Smart people can be quite level-headed about things, including love. While anyone can get caught up in the emotional storm of a relationship once it’s got going, smart people remain at a cool distance before things begin, so that they know exactly what they’re getting into.
They’re not going to rush into this. They’re going to weigh up the pros and cons, making sure the guys values match up with their own. They keep their emotions in check, and know full well that unless they and the guy agree on the important stuff – such as how to manage their finances, this relationship just isn’t going to work.
And so they don’t commit.