10 Positive Ways Your Breakup Can Help You Find Love Again
Breaking up can be hard, but it doesn’t have to be the end of the world. In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a look at 10 positive ways your breakup can help you find love again.
We’re not going to lie, and we’re not here to sugarcoat it. There is no doubt that a breakup can be one of the most hurtful and traumatic things that ever happens to us. However, the cliché that every cloud has a silver lining is true! Positive people look for the positives in any situation in life – including a breakup. Although a breakup is awful, there are positives to take from it. Seeing the end of your relationship in a positive light gives you a fresh perspective, and can be the springboard you need for finding love again. Instead of dwelling on the problem, focus on the solution. Here are 10 positive ways your breakup can help you find love again.
A Breakup Can Teach You How To Have Self Worth
Ever heard someone say: “I don’t wanna live if I can’t be with them!”? Dramatic, much! Maybe you’ve said it, too. Hey, who hasn’t?! However, it doesn’t say much for our sense of self worth when we declare such things. Sure, being loved is fantastic. Being protected and made to feel safe is marvellous. Being held, comforted, hugged and kissed is wonderful. But it shouldn’t validate your existence. You are more than your relationship, and you can use this time to assert yourself in the world. The surer you are of your self worth, the easier it will be to find a person with whom you can have a strong, lasting and successful relationship. Discover your self worth. Realise that you can live and be happy even without a man.
Do Things That Make You Happy
Contrasts make us appreciate the good things in life so much more. After a breakup, it’s normal to be sad, bitter and lonely. As such, we’re not exactly ripe for a new relationship. This is why it’s important that you experience contrast – do things that always made you feel good. Get your zip back and prepare yourself for new adventures.
A Breakup Can Toughen You Up
A breakup can give us remarkable clarity on what is worth us worrying about and what isn’t. Often, it is only after a breakup that some of us toughen up and mature for the first time. Until then, we were “spoiled” and would cry over the most trivial matters. However, the emotional trauma of a breakup makes us realise that so many of the things we used to worry about just aren’t worth our time. There are real issues in this world, and social media haters etc aren’t one of them.
A Breakup Reveals Things About Your Flaws
A breakup can teach you a few things about yourself that you never realised before. Maybe your partner broke up with you because you were too negative. If so, you now know that this is something you need to work on. It often takes a breakup to highlight flaws we didn’t even know we had. If we then work on ironing out these flaws, we can improve and grow as a person so that we’re better prepared for our next relationship.
A Breakup Gives You The Chance To Reconnect With Old Friends
One of the problems of being in a relationship is that it can stop us from seeing our friends. Before we know it, a lot of time has passed since we saw our squad. A breakup, then, gives you the chance to reconnect with old friends. This can help to put you back on the social circle. All those cocktail nights with the girls you passed on because you wanted to spend time with your boyfriend? Now that you’re single again, you’re free to hit the town with the girls and meet new guys.
A Breakup Means You Can Try New Things
Sometimes, there are things we just can’t do when we’re in a relationship with someone. We want to try new things, go to events of sign up to classes, but we just don’t have the time or the money. Now that you’re free once more, you have the time to try new things. Perhaps you could join a club, a community or sign up to a class in your local area. And hey, you never know – you might just meet someone new who shares your tastes and interests.
Learn From Mistakes
Use this time to assess what went wrong in your last relationship so that you have a much better chance of finding love next time. What did you do wrong? What did they do wrong? Did you rush into things? Ask yourself a few questions and make sure you don’t repeat the same mistakes.
You Get To Learn To Love Yourself
At the end of a relationship, we’re not always ourselves. We’re jaded, lonely, broken and emotional. We’re a bit of a mess. Worse still, we’ve fallen out of love with ourselves. We’ve lost our sense of self-esteem. However, that’s not who we are. If you’ve been feeling jaded for a while now, coming out of a relationship could be the best thing that’s happened to you, as it can give you the time you need to learn to love yourself all over again. And remember, it’s very hard for someone else to love us if we don’t love ourselves first.
You’ve Got Time To Learn More About Yourself
You know what? As painful as it is for us to say it, and as painful as it might be for you to hear it, but your last relationship might not have been right for you. Not all couples are meant to be – it’s one of the reasons some relationships don’t last. However, we don’t always know who is right for us until we understand ourselves first. Use this time to find out more about yourself. What do you want out of life? What are your values? Try new experiences, take yourself out of your comfort zone and test yourself.
Use What Your Partner Taught You
If you’re going to get anything out of your last relationship, focus on the things your partner taught you – about yourself and people in general. Remember any great advice they gave you and use it to your advantage.
Do you have tips on how to get over a breakup?