10 Most common relationship problems and how to fix them
It is only the very lucky couples that never have any problems at all in their relationship, most people experience at least a few bumps along the way. The trick is though, to recognise those problems, when they do occur, and to do something about them. Here are ten of the most common relationship problems and some ideas on how to manage them:
1. A lack of communication
Many of the problems that can occur in a relationship do begin with a lack of communication. Don’t assume that you know everything there is to know about your partner, because people do change over time. Ask questions and take time to listen to the answers, that’s the only way that you will be able to really understand each other and keep the relationship close.
2. Money problems
Money issues are one of the biggest causes of divorce that there is. Always be honest with each other, when it comes to money, and never try and hide a problem. It’s always good for each partner to have a small degree of financial independence, but you should never hide any major income or expenditure.
3. Lack of trust
Trust is an important aspect of a loving relationship, trusting their judgement, as well as trusting them to be faithful. A lack of trust is often caused by insecurity, rather than any tangible reasons and that can only be learned. Challenge your mistrust and ask yourself what, if any, evidence there is that they can’t be trusted. If trust really has been abused though, that can be very difficult to rebuild.
Becoming jealous of a partner’s success or the attention that they are getting can be very damaging to a relationship. To combat jealousy, you need to be able to have faith in the relationship, faith in your partner and learn to share in each other’s successes. After all, each of you is only one half of a partnership.
5. Lack of drive in the bedroom
When you first meet, you might be unable to keep your hands off each other, but that rarely lasts. Don’t worry when this happens, it is perfectly normal and easily fixed. Don’t let the bedroom get boring, be adventurous and experiment to keep things fresh. Also, don’t forget our old friend, communication; talk about it!
6. Not sharing the household chores
Some guys still see household chores as being the job of the woman, but given that most women work today this is an absurd attitude to have. The solution? Get off your butts guys and take your share of the jobs around the home!
7. Feeling trapped
Sometimes you can just feel trapped in a relationship, with no room to express yourself and be you. It is important to retain your individuality, so make sure that you both have the space to do your own your thing occasionally. Don’t be afraid to have your own circle of friends and go out separately sometimes. If you don’t, a relationship can start to make you feel stifled.
In a long term relationship, it is easy to become complacent and settle into a routine that becomes dull and boring. The solution to this is simple, get out and enjoy yourselves and make the effort to try new things together.
9. Letting yourselves go
As they say, familiarity breeds contempt, but don’t let that happen in a relationship. This is one primarily for the guys, but girls can be guilty of it too. Breaking wind in bed and not taking care of your appearance, are just two signs that you have got so comfortable in the relationship that you think that anything goes. People still want some respect though, so don’t forget to make an effort for each other, it shows that you care.
10. Drifting apart
Time is always at a premium these days, but your relationship is important too. Make the time to spend together by taking breaks away or going out for dinner. If you are not careful, you can find yourselves spending hardly any time together and you can slowly, but surely, drift apart.