10 Magic Words That Can Change Your Relationship For The Better
Communication is key in any healthy relationship. Without sound communication, a relationship will struggle to be successful.
Maintaining a strong relationship is not easy. There is certainly no instruction manual that, were we to follow it, would guarantee us a life of perfect happiness with our partner. Instead, we all have to learn as we go along.
There are plenty of things you can do to maintain a healthy, happy relationship, and there are also lots of things you can say. Let’s take a look at 10 magic words that can change your relationship for the better.
I Love You
“I Love You” are the three magic words that everyone loves to hear. No matter how many times you tell your partner you love them, they will never get sick of hearing them.
Sure, saying I Love You seems easy and obvious. But that doesn’t take any of its power away.
Each time you tell your partner that you love them, make sure that you speak from the heart. Make sure that you actually mean it.
You’re The Best
Your partner is meant to be your best friend.
They might even be your soul mate.
They should be your sunshine, your solaris. The one who is always there for you, and who you are always there for.
But do they know this? If you don’t tell them very often, there is a good chance that they don’t.
Telling your partner that they’re the best should not be hard. After all, they are the best, right? Right?!
Well then! The next time you do something together, remind them they’re the best.
Tell them in the morning too, as well as before bed. Tell them all the time!
(even when they burn your dinner)
I’ve Been Thinking About You
There is a really funny episode of U.S. sitcom The King of Queens where Carrie feels sad and letdown because her husband Doug never tells her he’s thinking about when they’re apart. She feels silly for for getting upset over something that seems so trivial.
But it isn’t silly at all. It matters a lot to us when our partner texts us to tell us they’re thinking about us when we’re apart.
Put a smile on your husband’s face by texting him while he’s at work to let him know you’re thinking about him. Let him know that, no matter how busy you get, he’s always at the forefront of your thoughts.
Do You Remember When We …?
If you’re both having a bad day and can’t stop arguing, reminiscing about better times is a good idea to instantly switch the mood.
How Was Your Day?
When we’ve been in a relationship for quite a long time, it can be easy to forget the little things that really matter – such as asking our partner how their day was. It seems like such an obvious question to ask, but it often gets forgotten about. We have other things to be concerned about, such as bills, work and stress.
Taking the time out of your busy schedule to ask your partner how his day was is important. And don’t just ask generally before returning to your chores. Take a genuine interest. Ask him for specific details. Ask him to elaborate if he seems anxious or upset. Respond to him and show that you still care about his day.
I Love Your Mind
I once asked my boyfriend, “do you know which part of you I love the most?”
He made a joke about it.
But the answer was his mind.
And it made him feel awesome.
It’s really easy to overlook this one when you’re dishing out the compliments. Maybe you compliment his eyes, his hair, his smile or his abs. But did you know that what he really wants you to compliment is his mind?
Anybody can get rock hard abs. Anybody can have nice eyes. But not everyone can have your partner’s mind. Remind him that his is unique and you wouldn’t want it any other way.
I Support You
Nothing can break a relationship down quite like a lack of support.
You don’t always have to show your support (though it will help). Just saying “I support you’ tells them you’ve got their back. You’re behind them 100% and this gives them the encouragement and inspiration to follow their dreams.
Life is full of challenges, and your partner can’t overcome all the hurdles alone. They need you with them. If you’re concerned that you haven’t been backing them lately, let them know you’re beside them all the way.
Elton John once crooned that sorry seems to be the hardest word. And he’s right. For many us, saying sorry is tremendously difficult. We don’t want to lose our pride, and we don’t want to admit that we were wrong.
Listen. Everyone screws up. Everyone makes a mistake. By not saying you’re sorry, you’re making the situation a whole lot worse. You’re potentially ruining a good relationship.
Stubbornness is unhealthy. By saying sorry, you’re opening up to your partner and giving you both a chance to heal and move on. It’s healthy. Do it more often and you’ll feel so much better.
Can disagreeing about something make a relationship better? Really? You bet it can.
In a healthy relationship, two people have to be able to challenge each other. You simply cannot sit back and accept everything they say or do. If you think they’ve crossed a moral line, call them out on it. If you think a decision they’re about to make is wrong, let them know.
This is all about respect and growing together. If you agree all the time despite you disagreeing deep down, your relationship will suffer over the long term.
If the two of you don’t live together, or if there are times when one of you is away from home, it’s super important that you remember to say goodnight to one another.
Your voice should be the last thing he hears before sleeping. It serves to remind him that you care, and ensures that he sleeps soundly, knowing that you’re in his life.