10 Important characteristics of a healthy relationship
In a long term relationship, a lover needs to fulfill many more roles, than simply that of a lover; they need to be a soul mate, financial partner, best friend and even nursemaid at times. Sometimes, though, people stay in relationships for all the wrong reasons, even when the most important characteristics of a healthy relationship are missing. So, what is a healthy relationship and what actually constitutes it? People may disagree on some of the finer points of what makes for a good relationship, but here are ten characteristics that probably should be present in a healthy one:
1. There should be a healthy balance
A balanced relationship can be many things, but, the best way to think of this is that too much of anything can be a bad thing. There needs to be a balance between work and play, together time and own time, and it is a fine balance between dependence and independence. It is important that both partners think of themselves, as two individuals in a partnership and neither of them should become completely dependent on the other.
2. There needs to be honest and open communication
In a healthy relationship you need to be able to talk to each other and, more importantly, be able to listen. There should be no fear of losing one another, if you raise a thorny subject, you should be able to talk about anything and everything. If you can’t communicate, then problems will be left unresolved and that can only lead to longer term issues between the two of you. Remember, you can’t work together as a team, if you can’t communicate.
3. The ability to laugh together
Life has its ups and downs and it has its downright embarrassing moments too, so the ability to laugh is a vital ingredient in the recipe for a healthy relationship. Laughter can help get you through some pretty tricky situations and everybody loves a good laugh.
4. Unconditional love
That there should be love in a relationship goes without saying, but that love should not have any conditions attached to it. Wedding vows say ‘for better or worst’, and not ‘as long as you are rich’ or ‘as long as you are healthy’.
Comfortable, relaxed, satisfied, content, call it what you will, but you can’t be forever seeking something else, when you are in a relationship. You may each strive to achieve personal goals in life, but those goals should help you both achieve your common aims too.
6. Physical relationship
Some people may argue this point, but for most couples there does need to be a physical relationship, as well as an emotional one. Physical intimacy is the easiest way to demonstrate your love and it creates a closeness that cannot be achieved through emotions alone.
7. Trust and faithfulness
There needs to be more, than just an element of trust in a healthy relationship, it must be absolute. You need to have the faith that your partner will be at your side, when you need them, will catch you if you fall and, of course, remain faithful to you.
8. A shared vision for the future
In a healthy relationship, couples work together to achieve shared goals. They will have their own personal ambitions as well, but the ultimate goals will be those that coincide with the shared vision for the future.
True love is a relationship of equals. There should be no one master in a healthy relationship, both partners should respect the other as an equal and respect their right to individuality and self expression.
Couples in a healthy relationship understand each other and are in tune with one another’s feelings. The ability to understand your partner’s point of view, even if you don’t agree with it, is a vital element of a loving and caring partnership.
What other important characteristics of a healthy relationship did we forget to mention? Feel free to share your thoughts and opinions in the comment section below.
Stay happy, love and be loved!