10 Good Habits Of Couples Who Stay Together Forever
You’ve seen your grandma and granddad’s love for each other get stronger over the years. But what do happy couples do that helps them stay together forever? What’s their secret?
When we know we’ve met the right guy, we want our relationship to last. We want it to stand the test of time, overcome all obstacles, and keep going right until the very end. We don’t ever want him to leave our side – we’d miss him way too much.
It can be especially concerning that you’re relationship might not last the course if so far your relationship history is characterised by short-term flings that ultimately ended prematurely. It can be easy to point the finger at yourself and wonder what you’re doing wrong.
There are many things that are key to a healthy, long-lasting relationship. Ensuring it goes the distance means knowing what these things are, and putting time and effort into applying them.
If you’ve met the man you want to spend the rest of your days with, let’s take a look at 10 good habits of couples who stay together forever.
They Don’t Let Anger Fester
At first, you might not want to say something to him about the fact that what he did just made you anger because you don’t want to upset or lose him. You worry that if you say something, he might decide to walk out on you.
But as the relationship goes on and he keeps doing things that make you angry, it’s crucial that you speak out. If you don’t, the anger will fester and turn into full-on resentment. And when that happens, you’re no longer even angry with him – you feel as though you actually hate him.
Talk things out with him as soon as possible. Let him know what’s on your mind. This gives him the chance to personally nip things in the bud quickly.
If you don’t talk to him about what’s annoying you, how can he be excepted to change? Give him a chance.
They Always Forgive
Not a forgiving person by nature? You’re going to have to learn how to be one for the sake of your relationship.
They Never Forget To Be Affectionate
How many times have you got up late for work, rushed your coffee down your neck, jumped in the shower, grabbed your keys and stormed out of the house without so much as a “good morning” to your partner? There definitely wasn’t a kiss goodbye!
In the hectic maelstrom of modern life, it’s easy for us to forget the little things – such as the kiss goodbye. However, coupes who stay together don’t forget this. They’re always ready to greet their partner in the morning with a kiss, and often with coffee and breakfast, too.
Never forget affection. It helps you both to retain that sense of closeness, and there’s no such thing as not having enough time. And if you’re not in the mood? Touching your partner will put you in the mood.
They Shift Focus To What Their Partner Does Right
They don’t keep bringing up the wrong things their partner does. Instead, they focus on the good stuff.
They Eat Dinner Together
You’re home from work earlier than him and decide that you can’t wait any longer. Besides, you’re starving hungry and you’re going out for cocktails later with the girls. So, you decide to eat dinner now by yourself and your partner can eat his when he gets home.
Or how about the times you eat your dinner at the table, while he enjoys his on the sofa in front of the TV while watching “the game”?
Eating dinner together is important if you want to keep your relationship strong. It might sound like such a trivial thing, but it lets you both enjoy your food while talking about things. You could catch up on each others’ day, and just generally be happy that you’re here together.
We often find it hard to spend time with our partner as it is. Why let this opportunity slip through the net?
They Divide The Chores
If you’re always doing all the chores, of course it’s going to lead to resentment. Couples who stay together know the importance of dividing the labour.
They Always Go On Dates
After the initial honeymoon period of a relationship is over and we’ve settled into a routine with our partner, the routine can quickly become boring. All of a sudden, everything is predictable. You know that tonight you’re both going to return home from work, heat up a ready meal, flop on the sofa, and then go to bed.
It’s the same tomorrow.
The weekend is a bit different because you can both lie-in, before catching up on chores. Maybe you’ll find time to call a friend while he watches sports.
It’s just so mundane.
To keep the excitement in the relationship, and to give the two of you something to look forward to, never forget how fun dates are. Act like you’re just starting out again. Plan trips, meals, movies and board games.
They Have Friends
It’s really important that you guys have friends outside your relationship. You need time to away from your partner now and again, and you need your own space.
They Go To Bed Together
Nothing can kill the ambience of a relationship than you going to bed while he’s still downstairs, or vice versa. It’s kinda weird – it’s as though you’re still single!
“So I’m going to bed then,” you say. He doesn’t respond because he’s too busy shooting things on his game.
And then you climb into a cold bed, stay awake for an hour before falling asleep without him.
When you wake, he’s next to you. But he’s snoring and it’s time to get up.
Going to bed together means you can cuddle, indulge in pillow talk and fall asleep in one another’s arms.
They Give Their Partner Their Full Attention
If there’s one thing that made it a bit easier for our grandparents to stay together so long it was that they didn’t have the technology we have. While you could argue that, since so many couples now meet online our grandparents wouldn’t have met in the first place, what we could argue back is that, free from phones and laptops, our grandparents weren’t as distracted. All eyes and ears were on their partners.
Okay, and occasionally the TV.
Do you have other thoughts about habits of happy couples?