Here Is How My Life Changed When I Decided To Have Positive Mental Attitude At All Times
I haven’t always been a positive person. When I was younger, I was a gloomy teenager who always wore black, and who had a negative outlook on life. I wouldn’t say that I was depressed exactly, but I clearly had something wrong with me.
As the years passed by and I entered adulthood, I didn’t become much happier. I lurched from job to job, dropped out of college, and couldn’t figure out what’s next.
Worse still, it was as though I couldn’t figure out what I wanted to do with my life. I just didn’t have the energy or the heart. I was twenty-five years old, single, and stuck in a job I hated.
I resorted to victim blaming. I blamed others for my sorry situation, and firmly believed that I was where I was because of “the system”. It had put me here and would keep me here.
I’m not sure when it happened or what triggered it, but somewhere along the line I became more positive. Maybe I’d seen my friends pulling themselves together and making something of their lives. Maybe I realised that I’m human just like others, so why can’t I be a success? Or maybe I just realised that if I didn’t change my life, I would waste whatever potential I had.
I firmly believe that our mindset plays a big role in how our life turns out. Think miserable thoughts and your life will be miserable. My thoughts and my life were a great example of this.
Think positive, happy thoughts, however, and your life will reflect them. And that’s what I started to do. I had a complete overhaul of my mindset. I stopped dwelling on failures. I stopped blaming other people. I took responsibility for my destiny, set goals, and made plans to take control of my life for the first time in a long time.
Is a positive mental attitude really the key to a better life? I definitely think it’s one of them. Here is how my own life changed of the better when I became more positive:
I Started To Take Action
I never really thought too much about what separate successful people from unsuccessful people. I just always assumed that successful people have my skill, talent and connections than unsuccessful people.
But as I started to change my mindset, I realised that the crucial difference between those who succeed in life and those who don’t is that the former take action while the latter don’t.
I was always very bad at taking action when I was younger. I was one of those annoying people who would ask “what’s the point?” when told to do something. I wouldn’t apply for jobs because I didn’t think there was any point, while the idea of working on my “art” eventually became redundant. I saw no reason to do anything. I just wasn’t good enough.
Adopting a positive mental attitude helped me to take more action. Instead of slowly emerging from bed at noon, I was up at 7.30am. By 8.15am, I was making a start on my first project of the day. Why? Because I had drive and motivation. I wanted this. I could do this.
I Set Goals
Negative people don’t really set goals (unless you count making a TV-watching schedule a goal). They just live minute to minute, and don’t really picture the future. To them, the future is grey and probably depressing. Maybe they can envision a bed and Netflix.
I used to be like that. The idea of setting tangible, proper goals was alien to me. There was no point.
Once I adopted a positive mental attitude, however, I started to set goals.
Setting goals gave me direction and a purpose in life. All of a sudden, I had something concrete to work towards. Something that motivated me, drove me on, and further fuelled my positivity.
Goal-setting is super important for a happy life. By setting goals, you’re giving yourself something to look forward to. You’re keeping your positivity turbocharged.
I Landed The Perfect Job
Before I changed my mindset, I was stuck in a dead-end job. Why? Because I didn’t believe in possibilities. I only believed in impossibilities.
I believed that I was destined to always remain in this job, surrounded by these grey office walls, bashing away the same numbers each day on my keyboard. I didn’t think there was a way out.
Being positive opens your eyes up to possibilities. All of a sudden you start thinking “if so and so changed their life and became what they wanted to be, why can’t I?”
Becoming a full-time writer suddenly seemed like a possibility. For the first time in my life, I genuinely believed that I could actually do it.
So I did the things that would help me achieve my goal, and get me out of my job. Eventually, I achieved it. And this is where I am now. And there’s no doubt in my mind that changing my perspective on life and what is possible played a huge role in getting me here.
You are never too late. There is always time for you to make a change too.
I Became Healthier
When I changed my mindset, I became healthier. So much healthier.
When you’re feeling negative about life, it’s easy to get stuck in a rot, and your lifestyle and habits mirror your mindset. I felt as though there was no point to anything, and I was literally eating myself into oblivion.
Once I made an effort to change my mindset, I realised that diet is so important. It’s no surprise that junk food is linked to depression. The bad fats in junk food enter your brain, where they inhibit the production of happy hormones and chemicals, such as serotonin.
If you eat the wrong things, you will find it hard to be positive about life.
To me, a heathy, enriching diet goes hand in hand with a positive mindset. When you eat better, you feel better about yourself. You know your health is improving, which means you can rely on your body – and mind – to do more.