How To Stay Positive And Happy Most Of The Time?
“We don’t see things as they are, we seem them as we are.”
– Anais Nin
Positive people experience more success than negative people. If your mindset is positive, your life will follow suit. Likewise, if your mindset is negative, you will live a very negative life, surrounded by negative people and negative experiences.
A few years ago, I realised that I had to start being more positive if I wanted to get somewhere in life. I was in a real rut and going backwards all the time. Fundamental to my rut was my mindset, which was wholly pessimistic. I didn’t see the point in applying for a new job or even trying to get a boyfriend anymore. My perception had been shaped by my experience of the world, and it was a bad one.
But our perceptions of reality are nearly always wrong. However, if you live your life with a cheery smile and a positive disposition, you at least give yourself a much better chance of having everything you ever wanted. Here are a few ways to stay positive and happy most of the time.
Live In A Positive Environment
The information you choose your five senses to receive will have a HUGE impact on your outlook. The websites you browse, the music you listen to, the films you watch and the people you talk to can all effect your daily disposition, for better or for worse.
To stay positive, then, it’s important that you surround yourself with ephemera and people that you know will bump up your mood. For this reason, you need to carefully consider whether that website or forum you’re visiting is really going to help your mind or worsen it.
For example, a few years back I was used Internet chat rooms a lot. At first, they were fun and I was happy. But eventually I became too emotionally attached to people and started to miss them when they weren’t online. This, in turn, made my mood worse.
Be selective about the information you receive and avoid things you know will be harmful.
There is more simple or pleasant way of being happier than by smiling more often. You can smile to yourself as you go about your daily chores, or you can smile at a stranger you meet on the street.
Smiling is a a great way of instantly lifting your mood and making you think, “You know what? Life isn’t so bad at all!”
Take Things Slowly
Very few of us are mindful of the present moment. We whizz through life at a million miles an hour so that we can complete our thousands of tasks, go on our dates, chat to our friends, and so on and so on.
Ultimately, we miss out on the little things that can improve our mindset. We miss the smell of flowers on a crisp summer morning, or the delicate drops of dew glistening on our hedges as the sun kisses them. We miss the smell of our morning coffee because we’re frustrated that it isn’t brewing quickly enough.
Slow things down a little and appreciate everything that is around you.
Lose The Negative People
It’s harsh but true: If you have negative friends, you have to lose them. Even if they’ve been your friends for years.
Friends can sometimes hold us back and shape our lives for the worse. If your friends are currently doing this, have a talk to them about how you feel. If they don’t want to listen, consider moving on.
Retain Perspective At All Times
It’s so easy to make a mountain out of a molehill, isn’t it? I’ve done it many times, and I’m sure you have, too.
As well as Internet chat rooms, I also used to do online dating, too. But the problem with the Internet is that we sometimes have to be really patient when waiting for a response from someone. While they’re taking their time, all kinds of questions flick through our minds.
“Why aren’t they replying? Do they hate me? Have they found someone else? Did I say something wrong?”
It gets even worse when they don’t reply at all!
It’s important that you put things into perspective at all times. Stop for a few moments, take deep breaths, and refocus. Ask yourself if this triviality will even matter in a years’ time? Will it even matter in a month’s time? Is it really worth you getting so worked up over it? Keep your mind on your long-term goals.
Read And Watch Positive Material
I used to spend my spare time watching some awfully vapid videos. These days, I only watch positive, motivational material during my work breaks.
Reading inspirational quotes or watching motivational videos encourage positive thinking and puts you in an “I can do this” mindset. It’s a great way to start the day, too.
Banish Your Fears
Fear is what can stop us from being happy and positive. Rarely will you see a positive person freeze with fear. Positive people generally don’t halt at the precipice and say “I can’t do this.” Instead, they charge right on ahead and take action because they know in their minds that there is going to be a positive solution here.
When we fear something, our imagination runs wild and creates stories that skew reality. Just ask yourself, truly, what is the worst that can happen?
Add Value To Someone Else’s Life
When I was younger and in a rut, I was bringing other people down with me. If I wasn’t having a good time, I decided that I was going to make sure other’s weren’t, too. If a friend came up to me and asked if I thought they should go travelling for a year, I’d shrug and say “What’s the point?” I had zero positive things to say.
The energy you send out has a huge bearing on the energy you have inside you. If you’re spreading negative energy, you’re further filling yourself up with negative energy, too.
What you give out is exactly what you get back.
Start today by spreading some positivity. Help someone out, whether it’s an old lady with her shopping or a homeless person with some loose change. Show some love and peace to the world and you can be sure that they’ll send it back.
Create Some Goals
It’s hard to be positive when you have no idea what you want from life or what your future looks like. If you’re drifting from one day to the next without a purpose, it’s so easy to fall into a rut.
It’s easy to lift the fog, though; simply create some goals that you want to work towards. This will give you motivation, and it will also inspire you with some positivity because you’ll have something to look forward to.
Learn From Your Mistakes
Finally, it’s important to realise that a mistake is not a failure that says you’ve got to stop trying. Rather, a mistake is simply a teacher that helps guide you in the future.
Use your mistakes as a chance to do better and win next time.