10 Tips For Living In The Moment And Enjoying Your Life More
How many times have your friends told you to stop worrying about things and to just live in the moment?
Last year, I was told this a lot.
“You worry too much,” my friends would say to me.
“You plan too much,” was something else I heard a lot of.
They were right. While my friends were enjoying the moment and taking life as it came, I was stuck inside my head picturing future events. Like cinematic fast-forwards, I would transport myself to the future.
While living in the future can be a good thing sometimes, it also stops you from appreciating the present moment. You miss out on the beauty of a morning breeze or the smell of a daffodil in the summer. And these are the things that are so special about life.
A few months ago, I started practising mindfulness. And it changed my life. No longer do I live in the future; instead, I live in the moment and enjoy life as it comes.
If you want to do the same, here are 10 tips for living in the moment and enjoying your life a lot more.
“He who chases two rabbits catches none.”
It always looks really impressive whenever you see someone multitasking. It looks as though they’re winning at life. Perhaps there is a switched-on lady in your office who can take phone calls while inputting data and finishing off her lunch at the same time. She’s super productive, super efficient and she’s winning.
The truth is, though, that multitasking actually puts you on a hiding to nothing. Rather than winning at all tasks a the time time, you’re actually winning at none.
It’s impossible to out 100% effort into any task that you’re knocking off while doing something else. And you’re certainly not living in the moment and enjoying life. Instead, you’ll eventually burn out.
How can you enjoy your life more if you don’t smile? The simple answer is that you can’t.
Smiling instantly raises your spirits by boosting your mood. Start each day with a smile and you’ll be amazed at how better everything feels.
Don’t Rush Your Tasks
Remember when you were a kid and your mom called you in from playing soccer with your friends because it was time for dinner? You were having so much fun that you wanted to stay outside. But your mom was insistent: It was time for dinner.
And so to make sure that you didn’t miss out on anything, you greedily devoured your dinner in 5 minutes flat, before guzzling your soda and racing back outdoors.
Even as we get older, we still whizz through life like this because there is always something else to do.
We rush through our dinner because we need to get back to our desk, or because a film is coming on.
We rush in the shower because we lost track of time and our date is waiting for us.
Rushing through life like this means you miss so much of it. Slow down. Take your time. Be deliberate with everything that you do.
Get Yourself A Job You Love
“How can I enjoy my life when I spend 8 hours a day stuck at a job I hate?”
It’s a common question. If you are wasting so much of your life in a job that is making you miserable, it’s time to try a career change. Doing a job you actually love will stop you from living in the future, and it will help you to appreciate every single moment.
Don’t Think About The Future
What will be will be. Right?
But so many of us think we can change the future by obsessing over it. We think about it all day and all night, and it stops us from actually living our lives and enjoying anything.
Each time you start to think about the future, snap out of it and focus on the present. You could do something to take your mind off your thoughts by counting pennies or blasting out your music.
Do whatever it takes to bring yourself back to the moment.
Forgive People In Your Past
As well as thinking ahead to the future, looking back on the past with resentment, bitterness and regret also stops you from living in the moment.
So take some tim to forgive those who have hurt and crossed you in the past, and move on. If you don’t move on, a part of you will always be stuck where it shouldn’t be – and this will affect your mood for the worse.
Cut Down Your To-Do List
Some people live really hectic lives. They might spend the morning making breakfast for their family, before meeting a friend for lunch. Then it’s off to the ball game before quickly phoning a client. Then it’s time to do some voluntary work in the evening before heading to a bar to do some networking.
They don’t stop at bedtime either. Instead of getting some much-needed rest, they fire off some emails and make more calls.
Filling your day with tasks sure keeps you on your toes, but it stops you from enjoying life. Instead of saying yes to everything, cut yourself some slack and trim down your to-do list.
Be Kind To Others
Each week, perform a few random acts of kindness that help others. You’ll be amazed at how much more attention you give to other people, and how their plight (and helping their plight) helps you to live in the moment.
Spend A Few Minutes Each Day Doing Nothing
If the idea of doing nothing at all disturbs you, you really need to slow things down and take some much-needed time-out.
Sitting in silence and doing nothing at all is the best way to practice mindfulness. As you sit, you will become aware of your thoughts. But don’t focus on them, and don’t try to think up new ones. Instead, just be aware of them and wait for them to pass through you.
Focus on your breathing. Let your thoughts drift in and out in the ebb and flow of consciousness.
Especially if you’re a worrier like I was, practicing mindfulness like this is a great way of acknowledging your anxious thoughts, before letting them pass through you.
Take Note Of The Small Things
You are surrounded by small miracles that make life so great. It’s now time to start appreciating them by noticing them and being thankful for them.
Enjoy eating ice cream on a warm summers day. Appreciate a blazing fire on a cold winter’s evening. Savour the bubbles in your bath.