10 Tips On How To Avoid Naysayers And Follow Your Dreams
Do you have big dreams that you’re passionate about, but which other people just want to pour cold water over?
Stepping out from what is perceived as normal by our social circle can make us seem like a radical. When I was younger and working at my first job, I confided in my colleagues that I wanted to be an animator for Pixar. I didn’t see anything wrong with this dream. The naysayers, however, insisted that it would “never happen.”
Thinking like there is no box will attract attention; some of it will be good, but some of it will be bad. Not everyone is going to push you towards excellence. There will be people in your life who tell you that your dream isn’t possible. It’s too big. Why do they do this? I often think it’s because they’re scared that you’re going beyond their level. And so they want to keep you as their equal.
Dreams can seem scary, but also exciting. To make sure you don’t give into the negativity surrounding you, here are 10 tips on how to avoid naysayers and follow your dreams instead.
Make Sure Your Dream Is Specific
If your dream is really vague, the naysayers might have a point that it’s unachievable. Here is an example of a vague dream:
“I want to be an animator.”
Good for you. But because that dream is so vague, it’s going to be really hard for you to make the plans that will help you to achieve it.
You’ve gotta be much more specific. Like this:
“In five years’ time, I want to be working on the cell animation team at Disney in America.”
You’ve got a realistic deadline, as well as a specific goal. From here, you can now start to set a series of smaller goals that will help to turn your dream into a reality.
You Don’t Need To Justify What You’re Doing To Anyone
It’s totally true. Your business is your business, and you shouldn’t feel like you have to justify it to anyone.
Don’t Share Your Goals With A Naysayer
There is a very simple way of dealing with a naysayer immediately, and that’s by not sharing with your goals with them from the beginning.
If a person in your life is a well-known naysayer, don’t share this stuff with them. Even if they’re a friend, keep your goals to yourself. Safeguard them.
Ask Yourself Why You Want To Pursue This Dream
What motivates you to pursue this particular dream? What gets you out of bed in the morning? What’s driving you on?
In short, why does this dream matter to you?
I think it’s a good exercise at this point to picture what life would be like in a few years’ time if you didn’t achieve your dream. Ask yourself how much you’ve got to lose by giving into the naysayers and settling for second best. Paint a picture of how awesome your life would be if you achieved your dream. That is why you’re doing this.
Assess The Naysayer’s Credibility
Sometimes, a naysayer can convince us to change our minds about something because they sound really authoritative on the subject. Perhaps they have experience, too. Perhaps they’ve already tried what you did and it didn’t out.
“Believe me, I’ve already been there. You don’t wanna do that.”
At this point, it’s easy to agree with them and give up. After all, they’ve been there. They’ve failed so we don’t have to!
But before you take a naysayer’s advice for gospel, assess them. How credible is their opinion? Why did they fail? Just because they failed it doesn’t mean you will.
Hang Out With Positive People
They say that birds of a feather flock together. Basically, if you surround yourself with a bunch of negative Nelson’s, you will eventually become one yourself.
“Yeah, you’re right. My dream is dumb. I should stick to what I know best.”
“That’s the spirit!”
No! If you feel as though you’ve got way too many naysayers in your life right now, turn things around by surrounding yourself with more positive people.
You don’t need to feel bad for “abandoning” your friends. If they can’t encourage and support you, they’re not very good friends, are they?
Set Conversational Boundaries
If you don’t want to cut a naysayer out of your life because they’re a friend, you need to at least set conversational boundaries with them. If you don’t wish to talk about your dreams with them because they just make you feel bad, tell them that topic is off-topic.
I remember when I used to talk about my dreams to people. Eventually they said to me, “You talk about your dreams a lot, but I don’t see you doing anything about them. You’re all talk and no action. That’s because you know this isn’t possible.”
At first, I took the criticism badly and curled up into a ball. But then I realised that those people were actually right. I was talking a lot, but I wasn’t taking any action.
To prove to yourself that your dream is do-able, you need to take risks. So why not start right now? Set yourself a challenge and tackle it head on. Leave your comfort zone. Show the world that you’re ready to do what it takes to achieve your dream. Make a start.
One of the major reasons why someone doesn’t attain their dreams is because they’re scared of failing.
This is not exactly a surprise. From a young age, we’re taught that failure is a dirty word. We know that D we got in math class is not going to go down well with our parents. We totally suck, right?
No! Failure is a teacher that shows you where you went wrong. Intelligence is not fixed but is a sliding scale. If you failed the first time around, all you have to do is analyse what went wrong and make the necessary improvements.
Failure isn’t a bad word at all. Everyone fails. Embrace it. Show the naysayers you’re prepared to stumble now and then. But you will always get back up.
Lastly, it’s super important that you always stay positive. Be happy. Be smiley. Wake up thinking about your dreams and how they will change your life.
And remember – if you can believe it, you can achieve it.