10 Habits You Should Get Rid Of If You Want To Enjoy Life More
“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
– Marcus Aurelius
We all want to make the most of our life and get the best out of it, but sometimes there are bad habits that hold us back. If you feel as though you’re really not maximising your happiness at the moment, let’s take a look at 10 habits you need to ditch in order to enjoy life more.
Social Media Overload
It’s really easy to wake up in the morning and check Facebook for updates before you’ve even opened your eyes.
It’s then easy to check again five minutes later, as the coffee boils.
You’re excited because someone has posted a new status.
This pattern tends to repeat itself throughout the day, to the point where you find that most of your time seems to be spent mindlessly scrolling through your social media platforms, making vacuous comments, looking at photos that make you jealous, and waiting to see how many likes your status can get.
Social media can easily take over your life; it distracts you from work, puts you in a bad mood if you see something that annoys you, and takes away your focus. If you want to enjoy your life, you should either limit your time spent on social media, or escape it altogether by disabling your profiles.
Fearing That Things Will Go Wrong
Fearing that things will go wrong anytime now can lead to anxiety and, eventually, to panic attacks.
Frozen by fear, we don’t fulfil our potential. We take a few steps back and retreat into our comfort zone.
The thing is, you will make mistakes. But so will everyone. Mistakes help us to learn and grow, and they are what cement the position of successful people. Life is too short to worry about things all the time; just go out there and do it.
Women like to claim that they can multitask better than men, but the truth is that none of us are wired to multitask. Sure, it might seem as though you’re able to carry out 3 tasks at the same time, but you won’t be completing each task particularly well. You’ll be doing just about enough to get them over the line, but the quality won’t be very high.
Moreover, multitasking can lead to stress. Trying to get a few tasks over the line at the same time puts you under immense strain and pressure, and it can lead to a cluttered mind. Enjoy life by simplifying your methods and focusing only on one thing at a time.
Trying To Attain Perfection
In an ideal world, we’d all like to be perfect. We’d all like to be able to complete our tasks so that there are no blemishes.
But perfection isn’t really possible, at least not all the time. Striving for perfection only puts you under pressure and it can leave you feeling stressed. Moreover, perfectionists are never be satisfied, and will always find faults. This can lead to working longer hours, putting in more effort than you are physically and mentally capable of, and it can erode your personal life.
Attention to detail is good, but you should lower your standards a little. Put the effort in, but don’t set yourself unrealistic goals. Stop trying to be number 1 and instead settle for a job well done.
We all know that procrastination is really bad for us and detrimental to our success and personal happiness, but we all continue to procrastinate. And if you want to enjoy life more, you are going to have to quit procrastinating.
You need to grab yourself by the scruff of your neck and apply some discipline. You need to take action, make changes, and put the effort in.
Putting something off until the next day will only make it harder and more scarier. It will hang over you all day and night like a dark shadow, and you will have to combine it with those other things that need to be done tomorrow. Get done today what needs to be done today and you will feel so much better.
Sure, change can be scary. Change means we have to leave our comfort zone; it might mean that we have to change careers, change our lifestyles, or even change our location.
But being resistant to change could be what is stopping you from enjoying your life. While your friends are making changes in their lives, moving to new countries, trying new jobs, entering exciting new relationships, you can only look on enviously and wish you had the courage they do.
Change, although a little daunting at first, is not all that scary. It helps us grow, and it is vital to our overall happiness.
Listening To Negative Opinions
None of us are all islands; rather, man is a social creature who needs human interaction. From others, we can learn lots of useful things. People also benefit us emotionally, and can even make us fall in love with them.
But surrounding yourself with negative opinions is a bad habit you need to lose. You might not realise it, but we are, all of us, easily influenced by the people we hang out with most. If your friends are downbeat and have a pessimistic view of life, it’s going to influence the way you feel about things.
Dwelling On The Past
We all have memories that we cherish. Looking back on our memories can lift our spirits whenever we feel down, and they can bring a smile to our face.
But we all have bad memories too, and reliving them frequently will only take your mind away from the present.
Spending too much of your time in the past will not help you move forward, and it will dampen your day to day activities. For a stronger, healthier you, you need to let go of bad memories.
Comparing Yourself To Others
One of the negative aspects of social media is that we sometimes log in and get jealous whenever we see someone looking better than ourselves, and doing better than ourselves.
We unfairly compare ourselves to them and their standards, and wonder why we aren’t as good as them.
This stops us from enjoying our lives, and can even make us ill. Instead of comparing your car, your job, your house and your looks to other people, focus on your strengths, be kind to others, be grateful for what you have, and realise that, actually, many people are probably comparing themselves to you – and you’re winning.
Trying To Buy Happiness
Many of us indulge in retail therapy every now and then, believing that splurging cash on a few aesthetically pleasing items will make us feel better.
They may well do, but only for a short period of time. Rather than waste all your hard-earned money on temporal items, try to find other more rewarding pursuits that will lead to long-term happiness. These could include volunteering, making something, helping others, or going for a long, scenic walk.
What are your tips on how to enjoy life more?