How To Develop A Positive Mental Attitude?
We’ve all heard of the phrase “positive mental attitude” but it doesn’t really exist, does it? It’s just something that so-called alternative people and hippies say. It has no empirical meaning.
After all, an attitude can’t determine our reality.
… Can it?
Actually, it can!
“Positive mental attitude” was a phrase coined almost a hundred years ago by an American writer. The idea is that we become our perceptions. For example, if you are constantly negative, your life will forever remain constantly negative. If, however, you think positively all the time, your life will be more optimistic, and your chances of success will increase.
It might sound a tad too simplistic to say that all we have to do is change our way of thinking in order to change our life. But if you think it’s too simplistic, you clearly under-estimate the influence that your mindset has on your life.
Essentially, positive people are way more successful than negative people. While positive people are doers who get up and take action, negative people twiddle their thumbs and only think about taking action.
In the end, they decide not to. Because “what’s the point?”
If you want to change your mindset and your life, here is how to develop a positive mental attitude.
Be Grateful For What You Have
When we’re trapped in a cycle of negative thinking, we lose our perspective. Consequently, we lose sight of all the great things we have in our life. Instead of being grateful for the wonderful things we have, we’re too fixated on all the things we don’t have. We browse through our social media timeline, and envy all the seemingly great stuff that our friends have got that we haven’t.
You need to put a positive spin on things. Instead of obsessing over the ‘fear of missing out’, remind yourself of all the awesome things you already have going for you in you life. Make a gratitude list and write down everything that you have to be grateful for.
Count your blessings. Remember that you have so much going for you. You have your health, your freedom, a career, and so on.
Don’t just do this today. Write down a gratitude list every single day. Wake up and remind yourself of the awesome things you need to cherish. It will put a smile on your face.
Remind Yourself That You Are Powerful
We are all powerful – but most of us just don’t realise it. Instead, we put ourselves in boxes.
“I’m a saleswoman.”
“I’m a therapist.”
“I’m a hairdresser.”
Consequently, we impose limitations on ourselves that serve to take away our power.
But the truth is that we not our thoughts, perceptions or experiences. We are more important than that. We are pure consciousness who each day should wake up with a beginner’s mind. We are not our feelings. We are more than we think we are. We have the power to do what we want to do.
Little earthquakes can erupt out of seemingly minor incidents. A casual remark a colleague makes to you at work might trigger a deluge of negative thoughts in your head, ruining your day.
Or perhaps someone says something on Facebook that you don’t like. You decide to react and offer your two cents. The conversation turns into an argument and again you’re drowning in a sea of negativity.
We all face daily challenges when we’re forced into a decision: Do we react, or we do just let things slide, and continue on our way with a smile on our face?
Negative people tend to react because it’s their automatic, fixed response. But by reacting to dirty tricks, we’re just wasting hours and hours of our day. We’re devoting too much of our time in the wrong areas.
Try not to indulge in knee-jerk reactions. If you feel your blood boiling, take a time-out. Step away from the situation. Go for a five minute walk. Play some music. Smile. When you return to the situation, you probably won’t feel like reacting. After all, what’s the point?
Hang Out With Positive People
This is one of the best tips on how to develop positive mental attitude. They say that birds of a feather flock together. While you might argue that you’re nothing like your friends and are instead have you own unique personality, the chances are that if they have pessimistic outlooks, their pessimism will have been absorbed by you.
It’s natural for anyone to reflect the attitudes of the people we spend most of our time with. Franky, it’s pretty much unavoidable.
Changing who you hang out with is a tough decision. They are your friends, after all. But if your friends are bringing you down and making you feel bad about life in general, you may need to create a boundary and find people who inspire and encourage you to do more with your life.
Friends aren’t supposed to bring you down; they’re supposed to lift you up.
Adopt Negative Language
I’m a positive person now, but I never used to be. And just a few weeks ago, as I was combing through some of my old email exchanges with people, I realised just how negative my attitude was.
I could see it in the language I used with people. I was always complaining, and never asked questions. I was incredibly self-absorbed and stubborn.
Maybe you’re the same; maybe you use negative language, too. If so, it’s time to start being more positive.
Particularly if you spend a lot of your time talking to people, you need to adopt more positive words. Be happy for people. Compliment them. Ask questions. Make others feel good.
Is learning key to developing a positive mental attitude? For sure it is. Curiosity may have killed the cat, but it made the human a better person.
Learning is exciting. When we learn something new, we feel empowered. Think about how Isaac Newton must have felt when he discovered gravity, or Einstein when he came across the theory of relativity. They both would have felt great!
And that’s what fresh knowledge does to you. It gets your blood pumping, fills you with more oxygen and thus makes you feel amazing.
Plus, you know that when you have more knowledge, you can do more things. For example, you can enter a new work vocation.
Do you have other tips on how to develop a positive mental attitude?