10 Easy Tips On How To Train Yourself To Be Happy
A few years back, I was in a major rut. I had a few things that made me a little bit happy; I was living in my favourite city, and I had a good job that I enjoyed.
But there were far too many things that were dragging me down. For a start, I didn’t feel like I was going anywhere in life. I felt as though I was stagnating, that life was passing me by. I hadn’t been on holiday for over five years, and I had been single for far too long.
But I realised that all these things could easily be changed if I simply adopted a more positive, happier point of view.
After all, everything starts with happiness. Once you are happy, you are in a better position to go out there and achieve things.
Happiness isn’t something that is easy to come by, and it also shouldn’t be something that we wait to come to us. Moreover, life isn’t about winning all the time. There will be times when you lose, and there will be days when things just don’t go your way. But it’s important that you train yourself to be happy so that, even when you’re having a bad day, you find rays of sunshine that allow you to keep your head up.
If being happier is one of your resolutions this year, here are 10 easy tips on how to train yourself to be happy.
Give Yourself Something To Look Forward To
Whenever I ask people what would make them happy, they very rarely say “having something to look forward to.” But when I mention this to them, their eyes brighten and they agree that having something to look forward to is indeed ace.
Every day, give yourself something to look forward to in the evening. It could be something as small as a slice of chocolate cake, or it could be an evening out to the movies. You deserve it.
Cut Out The Short-Term Treats
Ever had a bad week that has driven you to more than a few glasses of wine? We all have. I used to follow blazing rows with my boyfriend with a few glasses of vino to make myself feel better.
I did feel better – but only fleetingly. The next morning, I always woke up with a headache and a whole load of bitter regrets. Indeed, I always felt worse after a treat.
Instead of treating yourself with “treats” when you feel blue, tackle the root cause of your happiness.
Like short-term treats, shopping is a common way of making ourselves feel better whenever we’ve had a bad week. Sure, buying new tops and shoes makes us happy – but only for a while.
Of course, spending money can bring happiness, but it’s important that you spend it wisely. For example, I spend a lot of money on healthy food because I know that my diet is intrinsic to my long-term happiness.
Others spend their money on their passions, while others invest it because this gives them a sense of financial security, and thus happiness.
Don’t Be Afraid To Make Mistakes
Ever beat yourself up because you did something wrong? I sure have. But I don’t anymore!
Eventually, I realised that it’s okay to make mistakes. After all, even the greatest people on the planet have failed at something.
Mistakes teach us how not to do something. As long as learn from our mistakes, we’re totally okay. Embrace your failures and use them to improve.
Stop Striving For The Best
Research has suggested that people who always strive for the best are rarely happy. Why? Because they’re rarely satisfied.
When you strive for the absolute best, you struggle to make your mind up about something. And when you do finally make a decision, you replay it over and over in your mind, concerned that you’ve done the wrong thing.
To be happier, it’s time to start becoming what is known as a satisfier, which is a person who makes a decision as soon as they come across something that meets their most basic criteria.
Find Ways To Boost Your Energy
A common characteristic of sad, down on their heels people, are slumped shoulders, lethargic body language and a tiredness.
Happy people, by contrast, tend to be bouncy, lively and energetic souls.
If you want to be happier, I suggest that you find ways to boost your energy. You could get more energy through your diet or through exercise. Whichever works for you. Maybe both!
Do you know what separates you from successful, happy people? Talent?
Maybe, but certainly not definitely.
Nope, the one thing that separates you from successful, happy people is that they were compelled to take action.
It’s easy to assume that happiness and success (which often go hand in hand) are inborn, but they are not. Instead, taking action is at the root of success. So, set some goals, make some targets, and start working towards them. This will give your life a purpose and, ultimately, some happiness.
Sleep is super important for helping our mind and body to recover from the previous day. When we don’t get enough sleep, it can catch up with us over time, and it affects our mood for the worse. Think back to a time when you didn’t get no where near enough sleep before an important day at work. You were groggy and irritable, right?
Instead getting a few snatches of sleep here and there, why not go to bed at set times and rise at set times?
Spend Time With The People Whose Company You Enjoy
They say that solitude is the playground of Satan, and they’re certainly right. The more time you spend alone with your own mind, the more easily bad thoughts can creep into your head.
Spending time with the people you love is fundamental for your happiness. Your family and friends can help you to feel better about life, and you won’t be left with any regrets later on that you just didn’t spend enough time with them while they were around.
Sounds simple enough, but we all know that ceasing to worry is a very hard thing to do.
If, however, you want to be happier, it’s paramount that you examine your worries and try to do something about them. If your worries are productive, this means there are things you can do that mitigate risk factors.
For example, if one of your worries is that you might get lost on holiday, reduce the risk by carrying a map with you.
More than anything though, worrying means that we are living in the future. Instead, you should try to go with the flow, let what will be will be, and live firmly in the present. Enjoy the moment!
How to become happy? What are your best tips?