10 Tips To Help You Feel More Feminine
Let’s talk about femininity. Growing up, lots of us thought we knew exactly what femininity was. As long as we dressed up in a flowery summer dress, wore our mother’s high heels to the school dance party and coated our lips in bright red lipstick, we were feminine as can be.
The only thing we then needed to do to really top things off was place our hand on our hips at all times.
But there is a difference between looking like a lady and acting like one. And when I was growing up, I have to admit that I had great difficulty executing the last part of the deal. Sure, I sported polka dot dresses and the highest of heels, but I was not what you’d call feminine. I would swear like a sailor, get drunk with the boys behind the bike shed after school, and I didn’t mind belching in Taco Bell.
So how does a lady act? Let’s take a look with our top 10 tips on how to be more feminine.
It’s time to relax and take it easy – because that’s what feminine ladies do best. We take deep, luxurious baths scented with salts and bubbling over with colourful bubbles.
We go for a massage to help relieve tension, or take leisurely strolls in the park with our dog.
It’s important to feel relaxed rather than stressed. Stress removes the femininity from you, turning life into a chore that we find hard to work our way through. Instead of washing our hair with a new herbal shampoo, we’re instead tearing it out because the printer has got jammed yet again.
Be Grateful For The Present Moment
I used to be the woman who would rush around all day. I’d wake up late for work, bolt down the stairs, quickly brew a pot of coffee before burning my tongue. Then I’d sail into the shower, stubbing my toe on the side of the bus in the process.
By the time I got onto the bus, I was ready to scream at anyone who dared to touch me.
It’s not very lady-like, but I realised that I just wasn’t living in the present moment.
When you live in the present moment (and are grateful for living in it), you appreciate everything around you. You take a moment to appreciate the way a newly blossomed petal sways in the wind, and the way the sun covers the trees in the shade. You appreciate the sound of traffic in the morning as something sonorous in its own way.
Essentially, you slow down and awaken your senses to the world. It’s a fabulous feeling.
This is another great tip on how to be more feminine. You’re a lady and you deserve to be treated like one. Instead of waiting for a friend to get back to you, and instead of being let down once more by Mr Wrong, take yourself out for a date and let others wait on you hand and foot.
When I ask you to declutter, I don’t just mean physically – I also mean mentally.
It’s very hard to feel feminine when you’re surrounded by junk in your house. If your bedroom is a tip and you can’t even find a pair of clean socks, you’re not going to be loving life very much right now.
But a cluttered home can easily lead to a cluttered mind. Maybe you’ve got a few projects that you haven’t yet finished, or maybe your schedules are totally unmanageable.
If your physical and mental life is cluttered, work hard to declutter them as soon as possible. This will free up your mind, allowing you to see things with greater clarity and prescience.
You will also feel so much more serene.
Fill Your Home With Flowers
What says femininity more than a bunch of flowers?
Flowers symbolise your natural energy, as well as love, beauty and nature.
Refine Your Speech
One of the things that was marring my attempts to be more feminine when I was younger was my speech: I was always cursing.
Sure, a curse word can really drive home a point, especially in a heated argument where you feel as though the other person just isn’t taking you seriously. But the English language is absolutely crammed with powerful words that work just as well. So why rely on obnoxious, vulgar curse words?
Refining your speech is a great way to become more ladylike. If you must, extend your vocabulary by looking for synonyms online. Be cultured and eloquent, and lose the slang, the curse words and even the sarcasm if you feel that’s also letting you down.
Next important tip on how to be more feminine is to be positive. We’ve all met catty women who snarl at one another.
“How on earth is she fitting into that dress?”
This kind of negativity and cynicism is totally un-lady-like and you should avoid it at all costs. To be more feminine, you instead need to channel positive energy.
When you interact with people, try and bring a smile to their face – rather than a worried frown. Be the life and the soul of the party who inspires others with their words, rather than the cynic who may as well have just told everyone the world is ending tomorrow.
Become the person everyone remembers as the one who always brightens their day.
Look in the mirror each day and spend some time admiring yourself. You are a strong, beautiful person who deserves to be noticed.
Examine your eyes, lips and nose. Pay attention to your beauty. Give it some appreciation..
Lots of people assume that feminine women don’t know how to let their hair down and have fun. They’re “too busy being feminine” to be playful. But this is not true.
It might be really shocking to hear this, but to be feminine you should also have a silly side.
Being uptight and super serious all the time is bland, tasteless and will really get you no where. You’ll just come across as an upper-middle class wannabe who should be hosting dinner parties and hunting foxes.
You need a playful side, and you need to know when to laugh and when not to take everything so seriously.
Spread Some Love
Our final tip on how to be more feminine is, of course, all about love. Are women born to love? Probably. After all, it is we who give birth to our children. So we should know how to spread love!
When I was younger and wearing my polka dot dresses, I wasn’t the most loveable gal in the world. I used to scowl at gays who tried to date me, and I’d make fun of anyone who was too sickly sweet.
Basically, I was spreading really bad vibes instead of love.
But love makes the world go round, and it’s our job as woman to keep on spreading it. So go ahead and perform thoughtful deeds and gestures each day. Practice kindness to strangers, smile at people, and show the world some love.
How to be more feminine? What are your best tips?