How to be happy with yourself?

Happiness is a choice, it’s totally up to us, but, there are certain things we hold on to, that, actually, hinder our joy. Today, let’s look at some things and habits you need to give up in order to be happy. Let’s begin:

1) Give up complaint

One of the most natural human habits is to start complaining, when something goes wrong. Let it not be so any more! Complaining never brought anything good to those who indulge themselves in it, nor did complaining ever solve any problems. Therefore, appropriate positive mental attitude and learn to be an optimist at all times. Start looking for blessings in every situation; if something goes wrong, remember, there is always a solution!

“Complaining not only ruins everybody else’s day, it ruins the complainer’s day, too. The more we complain, the more unhappy we get,” – Dennis Prager

2) Give up and let go of the past

Past will always remain an illusion, it will always stay in the past. Therefore, instead of wasting your energy and emotions on dwelling in the past, start focusing your attention on the present moment – this is the only reality we have and will ever have!

“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment,” – Buddha

3) Give up your limitations

Learn to think out of the box, stop believing in limits and impossibilities. Open up your heart, dare to spread the wings of your faith and fly.

“The limits of the possible can only be defined by going beyond them into the impossible,” – Arthur C. Clarke

4) Give up criticizing and judging others

In order to give up criticizing other people, we need to understand that we all, simply, aren’t the same. The world would be quite a boring place, if everyone on this planet wound have the same desires, tastes, habits, goals and dreams. Letting go criticism and judgement can tremendously improve your life and help you to be happier.

“Criticism is the art of appraising others at one’s own value.” – George Jean Nathan 

5) Give up your attempt to please everyone

Stop conforming yourself to other people’s standards. It’s quite impossible to please everyone. Instead, be true to yourself, follow your bliss and walk your own way.

6) Give up self-criticism

A healthy dose of self-criticism, in order to adjust yourself and make improvements, never hurts, but many people constantly criticize and bit themselves up inside, they call themselves words in their own mind and dwell on negative self perception, which can be very discouraging and, even, harmful. If you want to be happy, you need to stop doing it. Instead, give yourself love. Accept yourself fully and completely…and you will see how life will change for better.

7) Give up your fear of change

Changes, often, might look scary, but this is just the part of progress! Without change, it’s very hard to move forward. Life is a constant progress. Often, stuck in our “comfort zone”, we resist changes and are, even, scared of them. Try to shift your perception and see change as an improvement.

“Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” – George Bernard Shaw

8) Give up your fear of what other people might think about you

First of all, who are those “other people”? What role do they play in your life? How do they affect your destiny? Probably, the fear of what other people think about us is just an illusion that we create ourselves?… As for me, this revelation was one of the most liberating ones! When I first understood that what other people think is non of my business – my life became a lot easier.

9) Give up the thoughts about your ex

Your ex is in the past now. There was a reason why it didn’t work out between the two of you. By letting go the thoughts about your ex – you liberate the place for new love to enter your world.

10) Give up on blaming

Stop blaming live, circumstances, yourself and other people for things that didn’t work out in your life. By blaming something or someone – you waste your precious energy, that could be used for building up new things. Therefore, give up on blame, make yourself a cup of tea, put your favorite lipstick on (if you are a girl ;)) and take full responsibility for your own life!

11) Give up all your “I can’ts”

Yes, just replace your “I can’ts” by “I cans”! It’s that simple. The only person who prevents you from succeeding is you, and this is a good news! It means that you can change your attitude, decide that “you can” do it and start moving toward the accomplishment of your dream.

12) Give up on being close-minded

Wayne Dyer said: “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Open up your mind and start being curious instead, just like children – they wonder about things all the time. If you never experienced something, it does’t mean that this thing doesn’t exist!

13) Give up your fears

Thomas Carlyle said: “The first duty of man is to conquer fear; he must get rid of it, he cannot act till then.” Fear is just an illusion, created and sustained by people’s mind.

What emotion is the opposite of fear? Love! It’s totally our choice what we decide to hold on to. Let’s always chose love, instead of fear, this way our life will become a lot more fulfilled and happy.

“Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.” – Marianne Williamson

14) Give up worry

George Washington once said: “Worry is the interest paid by those who borrow trouble.” How worry can help you be happier? How worry can improve your life? Worry, actually, never assisted anyone in solving problems! Eliminate worry out of your mind (and life) – your eyes will be opened, so that you will be able to see solutions.

“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.” Corrie Ten Boom

15) Give up your need to be always right

And finally, remember one simple truth that the actor, Hugh Jackman, once, voiced: “Your wife is always right. Very simple. I think I’m going to get it tattooed on my forehead.” (Just kidding…:))

Now, let’s talk seriously…My last point is that giving up your need to be always right can be very liberating! Next time, before starting a fight with your loved ones over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself these simple questions: “What is more important, my need to be always right or the happiness and harmony of our relationship? What is more powerful, being right or being kind?” It’s all up to you!

I hope you’ve found these tips on how to be happy with yourself useful and that these quotes about being happy can inject some motivational boost into your day!

What are, on your opinion, things we should give up in order to be happy? What makes you happy?

Feel free to share your thoughts in the comment’s section below.

Stay happy!


  1. Maegen Kennedy
    October 27, 2016 at 6:05 am

    Thanks for sharing this wonderful article. Really inspiring and helpful. I would also like to add some points. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, co-workers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel. Keep it up with those ideas.

  2. Sephanie
    October 23, 2013 at 3:29 am

    Love it!

  3. Anonymous
    October 23, 2013 at 12:06 am

    Excellent website!

  4. Anonymous
    October 19, 2013 at 11:09 am

    Amazing website!

  5. Derry
    October 19, 2013 at 6:52 am

    These things you’ve mentioned are truly helpful! Thank you

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