10 Tips On How To Take The Right Decision When Confused
Every single day we are faced by choices and have to make a decision. Maybe we have to choose between seeing our friends tonight or our boyfriend, or maybe we need to decide whether to go to the gym or postpone it until tomorrow.
Sometimes a decision is as trivial as deciding what to have for breakfast – something healthy, or something tasty that hits the sweet spot.
We’re all decision makers, and many times we have to make snap decisions while under pressure – especially at work.
But how often can you say that you make the right decision?
Making decisions about our families, our careers, our finances, our health and so on is not easy, but these choices can ultimately decide our long-term fate, for better or worse.
Following our top 10 tips on how to make the right decision when you’re feeling confused will help you to avoid falling into the trapping of making mistakes. Let’s take a look.
Take Your Time
A lot of the time we make a decision on the spur of the moment because we feel like people are waiting for us to decide. We rush into saying Yes or No, and consequently we don’t always make the right choice.
It’s important that you seriously think through any decision you take. Before raising your hand in a meeting to say “Yes! I will do this for you!” think about whether or not you actually can commit to this.
If someone is rushing you into deciding, tell them that you need to take a few minutes out. Weigh up the pros and cons and come to a decision that will benefit YOU.
Understand The Problem
Sometimes we rush into a decision that we forget to grasp the problem. This causes poor error of judgement.
Before you tackle the decision making process, lift the fog by really understanding the issue that is at hand here.
Make A List Of Your Alternatives
“The man who chases two rabbits catches none.”
As much as we’d love to all think that we’re ace at multitasking (because women are supposed to be so good at juggling many things at once, right?) the truth is that multitasking just doesn’t work.
Most of us, though, continue to make snap decisions, which means that we’re processing every single possibility at the same time.
Instead, take a bit of time out to write down a list of your alternative courses of actions. Spend enough time on each one.
Go To Your Happy Place
Bad decisions are made when we’re in bad places.
For example, I made a decision to on vacation with my friends when we were all a bit tipsy at a house party. I told them there and then to book the flights and we’ll go. I was swayed by the merriment and the intoxicating atmosphere.
What I should have done is retreated to a quiet, peaceful place where I could make a decision rationally based on sound judgement.
Good decisions come out of inner peace and harmony. If you’re in the middle of a crowd, you’re less likely to make the right decision that suits you. You’re going to be swayed by the crowd into making a bad decision.
If something is big, take time out and find your happy place.
Rephrase The Question
Sometimes, the question has been asked all wrong. If you’ve struggling to reach a decision and are feeling somewhat perplexed, rephrase the question.
Before you can make the right decision, you have to ask the right question.
Remember Your Priorities
What are you priorities in life? Do you know them?
Often, I make decisions that are not in line with my priorities.
After I’ve made the decision I remember my priorities.
All of a sudden, I’ve got this new thing to do that is going to eat up my time and put the really important stuff on the back burner.
Whenever you’re faced with a new decision to make, always think about what else is going on in your life.
Can you really see your friends this Friday night even if your boyfriend is coming over?
Well, you could because he won’t mind!
Unless he’s your priority. In which case you really should tell your friends Thanks, but you’ve got other plans.
Once you start losing sight of what really matters, you start making the wrong decisions.
Question The Truth
My mom always told me to never do anything except chill and sit down after eating. She insisted that doing any kind of physical activity after eating is harmful.
It’s not actually true; fitness experts recommend light-to-moderate exercise (such as walking) after eating as a great way to lose weight.
There are many untruths out there. Before making a decision, question whether everything you’ve been told about a subject is actually factually correct.
Remember What Is Best For YOU
How often do you make a decision without actually thinking through what is best for you and your wants and needs?
I used to do it all the time. I’d put other people first before myself, until eventually I got the point where I was desperately unhappy. I had no time left for myself and what I was doing in life was bringing me no value.
Before you say Yes or No to something, ask yourself what’s in it for you. It might sound selfish, but it will certainly help you to make the right decision.
Keep Sight Of Your Values
What are our values? Our values are everything we believe to be right. They guide our decisions in life, and they ensure that we always do the right thing.
Unless, of course, we lose sight of our values.
This is really easy to do. Lots of us make decisions that seem out of character, and it’s only when we look back at our decision making that we ask, “Why on earth did I do that?”
Whenever you’re confronted with a decision, think about your values. Ask whether making this decision accords with your values. Are you being truthful to yourself? Will this decision make you feel good, or will it make you feel lousy?
Ask For A Second Opinion
Feeling really confused? Not sure you trust yourself to make the absolute right decision? Then ask a friend for advice.
Don’t stop there; ask three, four or even five people.
How to make the right decision? What are your best tips?