10 Tips On How To Start A New Chapter In Your Life And Reinvent Yourself Again
“You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.”
– C.S. Lewis
“It’s important to define ourselves by reinvention.”
– Henry Rollins
I like to reinvent myself, and I’ve done it a few times in the past. One day, I woke up and realised that I was going no where in life the way things were going. I was in my mid-twenties, and still living for the weekend while most of my friends were getting married and having children. I realised that things needed to change.
One of the first things I did was I gave up drinking. I went back to school and took a new course, set some goals – and pretty much changed the person that I was.
Reinvention is important for many things, but perhaps most crucially it allows us to discover more about the world, as well as about who we are. If you keep on doing the same things all the time, you never push yourself. Therefore, you never find out what you’re truly capable of, as well as what you truly enjoy.
Reinventing yourself is not easy, particularly if you have family and friends who love you the way you are. But if you’re looking to make a change in your life, here are ten top tips on how to do just that.
Learn From The Best
Opening up a new chapter and reinventing yourself can seem a tad scary at first as you try to find your feet. You might not know where you’re heading, and you might be really unsure of yourself. It can even feel like walking a tightrope without anything to make us feel safe and secure.
The best thing to do in this situation is to learn from the best. Once you’ve decided what you want to do, find out how similar people achieved it. Read their biographies, articles, blogs et cetera and model yourself on them.
Create A Vision
Take some time out to picture what you need to leave behind right now. This might include friends, family, a job, a town and so on. Then, picture the kind of future you would like, whether it’s a new job, new friends, a long-term partner and so on.
Imagine how it feels to be in that future vision. Picture yourself walking around in it, listen to the sounds, smell the odours, and feel the touches. Imagine yourself smiling as you’re surrounded by all the things you want, with the sun shining on your face.
Envisioning something is the first step towards achieving it.
Write About Your Future
It doesn’t matter if you don’t write, because anyone can do this task. All you need is a pen, some paper – and a good imagination.
Write down where you see yourself living in a years’ time. Write about how you spend your whole day, from morning until the evening. Who do you hang out with? What do you spend your money on?
Keep writing for as long as you want. Create scenes and dialogue. Make your future come alive on the paper so that it’s almost like a movie script and you’re the central character. Feel at home in this future.
Connect With New People
We can’t always open new chapters ourselves, but instead need some assistance. If you sense this is you, it’s time to dedicate some efforts to connecting with people that you will need.
You can use social media to network, or you can go to networking events in real life. Whatever you need to do in order to gain another rung on the ladder, do it. Find the right kind of people, meet them and get to know them.
Do It Now
There is never a better time to do something than the present. Successful people who make changes an reinvent themselves don’t put off until tomorrow what they can do today.
Unsuccessful people, however, do exactly that. Only, tomorrow never comes.
Approaching a new chapter with apprehension and nerves is okay but you must never approach it with a casual, laid-back attitude. If you do, you will inevitably keep putting it off.
Opening a new chapter needs to be a now or never situation – and you must choose right now.
Learn A New Skill
In the movie Groundhog Day, miserable weatherman Phil Connors pretty much has to reinvent himself when he’s forced to live the same day over and over. One of the ways in which he reinvents himself and shocks everyone he knows is by learning lots of new skills.
You could learn whatever you want, whether it be an instrument, how to paint, coding and so on.
Leave Your Friends Behind
This one is a tough piece of advice for some people to take because it challenges all their preconceptions about moving on. Moreover, it all sounds a little bit harsh.
But sometimes, our friends do not have our best intentions at heart. They have their best intentions at heart.
For example, when I was in my mid-twenties, I decided that I was going to give up drinking because it was stopping me from being productive and pursuing excellence. My friends – who had already got everything they wanted in life – told me not to be so silly. They tried to convince me to keep drinking with them at the weekend.
I realised if I did I’d just be making them happy, but I needed to make myself happy.
If your friends don’t encourage your plans for change, you need to either make sure they do – or move on from them entirely. Sometimes, a total break is required.
Learn How To Fail
Opening up a new chapter is a rocky road, and there will be failures along the way. But it’s crucial that you remember that it’s totally okay to fail.
Everyone who has ever got anywhere in life has made failures, from top entrepreneurs to top sports stars. The key is that you see failure as a teacher, learn from your mistakes, and do better next time.
If a person is reinventing themselves, there can’t be any compromises. You can’t reach the precipice only to baulk and say, “Well, I could change a little bit I suppose.”
Reinvention has to be an all or nothing thing. As such, you need the determination to keep on going even when the odds seem to be stacked against you.
It’s like Tommy Lasorda said: “The difference between the impossible and the possible lies in a person’s determination.”
To open up a new chapter, you need to be determined to see it through right to the end.
Change Your Mindset
Finally, your biggest barrier right now is your mindset. Some of us are too scared to make a change because “I can’t do this,” while others ask “but what’s the point?”
Worse still, some are just way too comfortable right now to even begin.
But if you really want to make a change, it’s time to rewire your brain so that you embrace reinvention and plough full steam ahead. Change is not that strange – in fact, it can actually be quite amazing.