10 Tips For Letting Go And Moving On
Wish it was easier to let go and move on? Let’s take a look at our 10 tips that will help you do just that.
It’s sad when things come to an end, but the amazing thing about life is that when one door closes, another one opens. When we experience loss or rejection, opportunity is often lying in wait.
Letting go and moving on isn’t easy, especially when the other person broke things off. Perhaps you wanted things to stay as they were, and as such your equilibrium was disturbed by their sudden departure.
However, it isn’t just relationships that we have to move on from in life. Sometimes, we have to let go of friends who we had outgrown, or sometimes we have to move away from our hometown in order to better our career. Sometimes, we need to let go and move on from someone because our goals have changed.
There are many reasons why you may need to let go and move on. Actually doing it isn’t so easy. Fear can hold you back, as well as anxiety of what may happen next. The most important thing, though, is that you want to move on. Once you’re sure that you want to let go and move on, it becomes easier.
Let’s take a look at 10 tips for letting go and moving on.
Be Thankful For What Happened
At Beauty & Tips, we love this quote by Dr Seuss:
“Don’t be sad that it’s over. Smile that it happened.”
What a great way of looking back on things!
When things have changed, far too many of us dwell on the fact that something has come to an end. We dwell on this so much that we forget to be thankful that it happened in the first place.
It’s okay to grieve, but grief shouldn’t last forever. At some point, you need to look back on all the good things that happened. Smile at the memories. Cherish them. Be thankful that you had the experience. Celebrate.
Change Your Perception
Events are neither good or bad. They just are. It’s how we perceive and interpret them that affects us.
If you continue to perceive something the way you are doing, you will find it hard to move on. It’s time to perceive it differently. See what happened as something that had to happen. It was a part of your process and journey. It was necessary, just like everything else.
But now it’s over and your journey continues.
Picture The Benefits
Imagine what your life would look like if only you could let go. For one thing, Your burden would be gone and you’d be free to do start over afresh. You’d experience a lightness of being. You’d be able to meet new people and push your life forward. You’d be happier.
Picture the benefits of moving on and remind yourself what you stand to lose if you continue to stay trapped where you are, desperately hanging on.
Take The Positives
One of the reasons why find it so hard to let go and move on is that we’re thinking negatively about the situation: We’re constantly thinking about what we’ve lost, and never about what we’ve gained.
There is something to be gained from every situation, even a relationship that has come to an end. Dwelling on the negatives and the fact that it’s over won’t get you anywhere. Look for the positives. Analyse how the experience has enriched your life and shaped it.
It’s easy to find the positives once you start looking. And once you’ve found them, you can start to move on from them.
Cut All Ties
Cut all ties with the past. If this includes deleting social media, so be it.
Take A Break
It’s hard to let go and move on when we’re constantly surrounded by reminders of what happened. Everywhere you go, you’re reminded of your past.
In such a circumstance, it’s a great idea to go on a mini vacation.
This is not a case of simply running away from your demons. It’s more of a case of giving you a chance to refresh and recharge in new surroundings, so that when you do return home, what happened doesn’t feel as immediate or as sharp.
Hanging around constant reminders makes it hard to move on. Try immersing yourself in new surroundings for a while. Enjoy different experiences, different perceptions, and meet new people.
Instead of dwelling on what happened, take action. Get busy with that business idea you had. Begin work on that novel you always wanted. Build that shed in the garden you had planned to build.
Don’t let what happened paralyse you. Take your mind off things by being proactive.
Make Exciting Plans For The Future
A great way to move on from the past is to look to the future. Make exciting plans and you’ll start feeling that you’ve got a second chance, and that happiness is still possible.
Without plans for the future, it really can feel as though you’re rooted in the present. The future – if there even is one – is veiled in a grey mist. All you can think about is now and what happened.
Make plans. Get excited by them. Give your life a new direction. Open a new chapter and close the last one.
Forget About What Can’t Be Changed
Not everything can be changed, and it’s important to remember that. Focus only on the things you can change, and stop trying to change everything else.
If you’re frustrated and upset that there is something you can’t change, learn to change the way you perceive it. Think about it differently. It’s out of your hands, so while you can’t change it, you can at least change the way you perceive it.
Lastly, learn to forgive.
Forgiving someone doesn’t mean they get off scot-free, while you continue the burdened with what happened for the rest of your life. Forgiving means being kind to yourself. Until you forgive, you will forever by resentful, stuck and unable to move on with your life.