Boosting self esteem: 10 Reasons why you shouldn’t be affected by people’s judgments and comments

We’ve all been hurt before by what someone else has said about us, but should we really care at all about what they think? More often than not people say spiteful things about others simply out of jealousy or ignorance, and the reality is that the only person, who truly has the right to judge you, is you. So, listen to yourself and not to others and read these ten reasons why you shouldn’t ever let other people’s judgment and spiteful comments affect you:

1. Listening to them will only bring you down

You can’t live your life based on what other people think, you have to live it for you. If you care too much about what other people say and think about you, then every little negative comment will bring you down. Have courage in your own convictions and live your life the way that you think is right and you will be happier.

2. Take it as a form of flattery

Some people just can’t find in themselves the courage to say something nice, when you have something that they don’t, so they resort to bitterness and envy instead. Whatever you have that is special, it’s unique to you, so be flattered that they noticed. Even if they don’t know how to express things in the right way.

3. It is not as important, as you may think

People often say things without thinking and they really don’t mean it to be as hurtful, as it sounds. We all tend to take things too personally and while you are still stinging from a comment, the other person has already forgotten about it, because it really wasn’t all that important at all to them.

4. It will hold you back

If you are constantly worrying about what other people think then you will never follow your own dreams. Sometimes you just have to forget about what other people think and do what is right for you.

5. It’s only an opinion

No one has the right to think that their opinion is any more valid than the next person’s opinion. People talk nonsense all the time, but it’s only an opinion, not a fact and they have a right to it. Just as you have the right to ignore their opinion.

6. You can’t please all the people all the time

No one can go through life keeping everybody happy all the time, so there is no point in trying to. Someone will always disagree with you. So long as you are being true to yourself and are not deliberately hurting others, then you can live with a clear conscience and ignore any hurtful comments.

7. You don’t always need other people’s approval

Being liked or even being admired is nice, but it’s not essential. You can’t control other people’s thoughts and you don’t need their approval as much as you think you do. Not everybody likes the same types of food that you do, but you don’t worry about that.

8. The people who pass judgment are usually the people who don’t matter

It’s a strange thing in our nature that we often seek the approval of people that we don’t like far more than we do the people that we love. It’s like a challenge to us, to make them like us, when all we should really be worried about are the opinions of the people close to us.

9. They could just be wrong

When you get into the habit of believing everything that people say about you, you can become blind to the fact that they could actually be wrong. Just because they say that your new hairstyle doesn’t suit you doesn’t automatically make that true.

10. Life’s too short, so ignore it

Life really is too short to spend all your time worrying about what somebody else thinks. We only have a very short time on this earth to do all the things we possibly can and sometimes not everyone will agree with what we do or how we go about it. But if we worry too much about that, we’ll never do a single thing.

Do you have some other tips on boosting self esteem and being free from people’s opinions and judgments?

Stay happy and beautiful!


  1. Arthur
    August 14, 2017 at 11:17 am

    Thank you for sharing such encouraging tips!

  2. Kel
    July 3, 2014 at 1:07 am

    Love it

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