10 Habits Of Emotionally Intelligent People
To get ahead in life, you need emotional intelligence. But what is it? In this article, Beauty and Tips takes a look at 10 habits of emotionally intelligent people.
Despite being key to anyones success, emotional intelligence isn’t something they teach you at school. They teach you how to do your sums or who won the second world war, but they don’t teach you how to manage your emotions, as well as those of others. Emotional intelligence is the practice of identifying a persons emotions – yours or someone else’s – and harnessing it so that our potential is fulfilled, or a conflict is resolved. As you can imagine, it’s very important that leaders and managers possess emotional intelligence. It helps them to get the best out of their team, as well as themselves, thereby stimulating both productivity and growth. Here are 10 habits of emotionally intelligent people.
They Look For Solutions
There are two types of people in life – those who dwell on their problems, and those who look for solutions. Do emotionally intelligent people spend any amount of time dwelling on their problems? Nope! They immediately start to look for a way out. In this way, emotionally intelligent people are positive and not negative. They believe there is an answer to everything. While it may take them a while to find the answer, to them it’s all part of the game. People without emotional intelligence, founder in the face of a problem because they often don’t believe there is a solution.
They Are Motivated
Ever been inspired by an incredibly motivated person? We all have. But what makes one person SO motivated, while we can only seem to muster motivation for one day, before spending the next six days on the sofa again? Emotional intelligence is key. People who have emotional intelligence tend to be super self-motivated. Why? Because they know what their higher purpose is, and they’re constantly re-examining themselves, their lives, their values and what they want out of life. Emotionally intelligent people are very switched on, and this is key to them finding the motivation needed each day.
They Define Boundaries
It takes both intelligence and assertiveness to set boundaries between ourselves. Emotionally intelligent people are smart enough to know that, unless they set boundaries as soon as possible, situations can get out of hand. People can take advantage of us, and because we lacked the foresight and courage to say No straight away, we find it hard to get out of an escalating situation. Emotionally intelligent people set boundaries so that everyone knows what is acceptable and what isn’t. They make sure they are not taken advantage of, and they make people aware of their rights.
They Take Imperfect Action
Perfectionists have the bad habit of making sure everything is absolutely perfect before declaring something is finished. Emotionally intelligent people, on the other hand, take the opposite approach. They don’t wait around out of fear of failing, and they don’t wait around until something is done absolutely perfectly. They just get it done! If they make a mistake, so be it – they’ll learn from it.
They Put Themselves In Our Shoes
When a person reacts badly to someone who has emotional intelligence in reserve, shouting and swearing at them, the person who is on the receiving end of the verbal volley doesn’t react badly back. Instead, they put themselves in the other person shoes. They well aware that the angry person is not angry at them. Their anger is a culmination of many things, and it’s just now that they’ve decided to explode. This is called empathy. Emotionally intelligent people have a habit of placing themselves in someone else’s shoes, as it gives them a greater understanding and insight into why people do the things they do. This helps them to calm situations down, and it also means they act as great listeners and good friends who are there when we need them. Aww.
They Embrace Change
Emotionally intelligent people know that things are in a constant state of flux, and that change is just a part of life. Without an openness to change, we stay the same and get no where. As such, they make changes all the time, from changes in their diet and lifestyle to changes in their mindset and even music tastes.
They Are Self Aware
Self awareness is a good trait to have. Not only does it prevent us from looking foolish in the eyes of others, but it means we are flexible enough to know when we need to modify our behaviour. Without self awareness, we may end up fixing a temporary problem with a permanent solution. This is unwise, because the problem needs a temporary solution. In other words, we should always be assessing ourselves so that we modify our behaviour to suit the situation. When we are self aware, we are able to identify and iron out our faults. In so doing, we are able to grow and improve as people.
Focus is one of the best habits you can have – and emotionally intelligent people have it in abundance. When they’ve got a task to work on, they give it their 100%, undivided attention. They switch their phones off, block out all distractions and give themselves over to the task at hand.
They Work On Their Communication Skills
Good communication is the bedrock to all successful friendships and relationships. Without good communication, things get misunderstood and taken out of context, and people fall out. Emotionally intelligent people work on their social skills all the time. They make it a habit to learn how to resolve conflict and talk to people from all walks of life.
They Look To The Future
Do you have a habit of dwelling on the past? Emotionally intelligent people don’t. They focus as much as possible on the here and now, but they also have clear goals in the future that keeps them motivated. The past is the past – it can’t be changed. As such, they forgive, forget and move on from their mistakes.