What Makes A Difference Between Extrovert And Introvert?
Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Find out in our article that explains the differences!
At some point in your life, someone told you that you were either an introvert or an extrovert. But was it really true? Are the definitions of the two really so simple as one is quiet and reserved and other is vocal and outgoing?
Being labelled one or the other seems rather limiting. The moment you’re labelled an introvert, you feel as though you’ve been reduced to being the quiet person in the office who likes to be left alone. Similarly, the moment you’re labelled an extrovert, it’s easy to feel as though you’ve reduced to nothing more than a brash person who can’t stop talking!
However, as we’ll see, there are much more to introverts and extroverts than these simple definitions. Moreover, an introvert will sometimes do things with normally associate with an extrovert, and vice-versa.
Indeed, these definitions are very much just a rough insight to each personality. Let’s take a closer look at what makes the difference between an extrovert and an introvert.
They Way They Process Things
When something happens, an introvert tends to internalise the event. They might fall silent, or at least not say much. Maybe you just won’t be able to tell how they’re feeling. It can even be a bit frustrating for other people, as introverts tend not to give too much away.
Extroverts, however, tend to communicate how they feel about an event with words. They speak their mind, and you know exactly where you stand with them. While an introvert looks thoughtful and pensive and is hard to work out, an extrovert tells you how they’re feeling. Unlike an introvert, they are verbal processors who prefer to deal with conflict head on – as opposed to internalising it.
They Way They Enjoy Downtime
We all need some downtime. Downtime helps us to recharge and come back stronger, fitter and rejuvenated.
As it turns out, how an introvert enjoys downtime is different to how an extrovert enjoys it. Whereas an introvert finds calm solace in a good book and some music, an extrovert prefers to hang with their family and friends.
This can sometimes cause conflict. When a family member just wants to unwind with a book, other, more extroverted family members want them to come and join everyone else and get a bit miffed when they don’t want to.
We’re all wired differently, and we all have different ways of relaxing and recharging.
They Way They Handle Change
Introverts don’t really like change. For them, change upsets their rhythm, and it can take them a bit of time to readjust. Introverts like to plan ahead, and it knocks them out of their stride when plans change. They have a set idea in their mind of how things would work out. If something comes along that changes all that, they get upset and feel stress.
Extroverts, however, thrive on unpredictability. They’re adaptable, and can readjust to changes at the drop of a hat.
Introverts love having friends just as much as extroverts do. The difference is that, unlike extroverts who tend to have many close and not-so close friends, introverts prefer to have just one or two close friends with whom they can share their secrets and most intimate thoughts with.
Extroverts can open up to pretty much anyone – including strangers. As excepted, introverts are much more reserved and will only open up to people they 100% trust.
You’ll be able to spot an introvert or an extrovert on Facebook just by looking at who they surround themselves with. If you’ve got a friend who only hangs around with one or two people, they’re probably introverted.
Friends who are always in group pictures with lots of different people, however, are very definitely extroverted by nature.
The Way They Handle New Situations
Introverts don’t often look forward to new situations with the same enthusiasm as an extrovert. While an extrovert gets excited by a new situation, an introvert usually gets exhausted by it.
How do you feel about new situations? Do you absorb the energy and use it? Or do you find yourself yawning and wishing you could be back home in bed with a book?
Extroverts get pumped by new things; they see opportunities and a chance to network.
The Way They Handle New People
Extroverts tend not to spend too much time analysing a new person before chatting to them. Usually, they’ll just dive on in there and strike up a conversation. They love to meet new people, fully believing that everyone is interesting and has a story to tell. And if you’re a friend of a friend, you’re definitely a friend of theirs.
Introverted are more withdrawn when meeting new people. They’re not suspicious as such, but they spend time weighing a person up before deciding if this is someone they could get along with.
The Way They Dress
You can sometimes spot an introvert or an extrovert by looking at their clothing. This is not always true, because sometimes an introvert while dress like an extrovert and vice-versa. We’re not all placed in boxes we can’t escape from, and sometimes an introvert or an extrovert will do something that seems a bit out of character.
However, the general rule is that an introvert dresses sensibly with neutral tones. Their clothes tend to be simple, and they often wear very similar outfits. Sometimes, they’ll even buy a few versions of the same outfit. They’re not really into fashion – clothing is just something they have to wear. It doesn’t even matter if it looks fab or not.
For extroverts, clothing is everything. It’s life itself. They can often be seen wearing bright, attention-grabbing outfits, and their wardrobes are packed with all kinds of funky get-ups that an introvert wouldn’t be caught dead wearing!
The same is true of their desks and office spaces. Whereas an introvert likes order and organisation, an extrovert works best when their space is cluttered and even messy.