10 Tips on how to gain control of your life
Life is full of challenges and sometimes it gets hard to go on. Perhaps all of us have felt, at one point or another, that they are just drifting along, unable to grab the reins of their own life and hold them. But sometimes we need just a little push to wake up and take control. Here is how to do it:
1. Decide what’s important
Each and every one of us knows deep down what’s really important for them, but we tend to lose touch with these important things as we get bogged down in work, family or a destructive relationship. So, get your mental treasure chest of values and priorities out, and give it a good airing.
2. Get to the root of the problem
You don’t have to be a control freak to notice that something is wrong with how how your life is going. Try to get to the root cause of your unhappiness, it may be masked under a bunch of small things, but you’re bound to find it if you dig deep enough. It could be something in you, or it could be something external. You’ll know it when you find it.
3. Remember your dreams
Being able to dream, and dream big, is one of our best qualities as human beings. Unfortunately, reality often distracts us from our dreams and they get pushed back to the corners of our mind, never to be fulfilled. This doesn’t have to be so, does it? You might be surprised to find out that right now you have the means and tools to make an old dream come true. There’s nothing like this for regaining control of your life.
4. Make plans
It’s all too easy to give up trying to face challenges down and let yourself drift. Making plans helps you keep an eye on the bigger picture, decide on strategies to get to the place where you want to be, choose your steps. Living day by day only works in the short term and imperfectly.
5. Value your time
Life is short, even if it sometimes looks like an eternity when you’re down and you feel you’ve lost your way. But it’s not an eternity and every opportunity you pass may never come your way again. So, don’t waste time hesitating, grab it if you feel it would make you happier. It works equally well for shoes, careers and relationships.
6. Cut harmful ties
Knowing that life is short and time is valuable, why continue a relationship – romantic or otherwise – if all you get out of it is misery and unhappiness? You don’t have to sever such a relationship cruelly, you can just distance yourself from whoever it is that is making you unhappy.
7. Speak your mind
Never be afraid to say exactly how you feel or what you think. Of course, do it at the appropriate moment and in an appropriate way, but don’t hold it back, waiting for a better time that may never come. Controlling your life means controlling yourself, but don’t mistake shyness, lack of initiative and reluctance for control.
Change can be frightening. It’s so cosy in the rut, so secure, so…well, boring. Very often we don’t actually lose control of our lives, we surrender it half-willingly, half-unconsciously, because it’s the easier way. Well, easy doesn’t mean better, remember this and dare yourself to change.
9. Some things are out of your control
Accepting that there are events, people and things that you can’t change, no matter how hard you try, is a huge step towards getting back the control of your own life. Refusing to accept it just leads to pointless exhaustion and distraction.
10. Sit back and relax
Just ask yourself one question: are you a rat in the notorious rat race, or a unique human being with unique dreams and ambitions? They are unique, because you are different from everyone else. Leave the race track, strike out in your own direction and enjoy every step.
How to gain control of your life? What are your tips?