How to be emotionally healthy?
I can’t recall ever wanting to be super wealthy when I was a kid. I knew that money in life was important and that without it my parents wouldn’t be able to take me to nice places. But it was never something that preoccupied my mind. It rarely is for kids, of course. I knew that I just wanted to keep having fun forever.
They say that being a kid is the best time of your life. But when you’re a child, you don’t accept such claims. You want to be a teenager and an adult as soon as possible so that you can be freer than you are now. You want to wear make-up, go to concerts, leave home, kiss boys et cetera. It’s very rare that a kid actually appreciates how blissfully carefree their life is.
As I got older, my goals in life started to change. My circumstances changed, as did my personality. I chased money. I wanted wealth because I thought it was money that drove happiness and motivation. But by the time I reached my late twenties, I had burned out – I realised that I was no longer happy.
My aim then became to be emotionally wealthy and happy. I realised that emotions and not money are the driving forces of motivation. If you are not strong emotionally, it’s hard to do anything in life properly. Our relationships and friendships break down, and we don’t live the life we want to live. You could have all the money in the world, but if you are emotionally happy, money means nothing.
Here are 10 useful tips for those of you who want to be emotionally wealthy and happy.
I watched a great video recently by Russell Brand who reminds us not to “define ourselves by external coordinates and realities.”
In other words, we shouldn’t look for validation from other sources.
You have a tremendous amount of personal value, and you’ve got a LOT to offer the word. Don’t feel that you need other people to give you their seal of approval before you lift your head up and take on the word.
People who are emotionally wealthy don’t rely on the acceptance of others. They know their value and worth.
You can’t be emotionally wealth and happy if you aren’t positive. It’s just not possible. Negativity breeds negativity, and it can fill you with contempt, not just for the world but also for yourself.
Be positive and joyous. Smile at strangers. Give encouragement to others.
“I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 gams. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
– Michael Jordan
Resilience is a powerful trait that you need to harness. Those who succeed are those who were defiant before a storm of setbacks.
Emotionally wealthy people have a remarkable amount of endurance. If they get knocked back, they recover and go again.
Everyone faces obstacles in their life. Each one of us will come up against challenges. It’s how you react that is key. You might not succeed the first, second, third or even tenth time. But fortune smiles on those who never give up.
Invest In Yourself And Others
Warren Buffet once said that the greatest investment we can make is in ourselves.
The second best investment you can make is in others. By helping other people grow emotionally, you will also benefit.
Always Look Forward
It’s hard to be emotionally happy if you keep living in the past. If you let past mistakes and experiences define who you are today, your future is going to be very bleak. It isn’t going to be what you want it to be.
People with bags of emotional wealth are always looking forward. They forgive, forget and move on swiftly. They don’t hold grudges.
Bitterness is a remarkable waste of energy that traps you in a vortex. It stops you from living in the present moment and being your best.
Look forward at all times. Don’t look back.
Wealth suggests an accumulation. And you can’t accumulate unless you speculate.
What this means is that you need to be willing to leave your comfort zone, embrace uncertainty and take risks.
Enrich your life with new experiences and people. Challenge yourself and your perceptions.
Don’t Compromise Your Values
Have you ever got so drunk that you did or said something totally out of character that you deeply regretted the next day? Many of us have. Combined with a hangover, this sense of regret leaves us feeling awful. We compromised our values and we wonder what other people now think of us.
When you are sober, there should be no excuse for compromising your values. Once you do that, you are damaging your sense of self-worth and esteem. Moreover, you are taking decisions that may harm you in the longer term. You’re also running the risk of other people blacklisting you.
Write down a list of your values and stick to them. This will create happiness.
Too many of us want the world and we want it now.
And if we can’t have the world, we want what our best friend has.
It’s as though what we have right now isn’t good enough. As though it has no value.
Spend some time writing down a list of all the things you have in your life that you need to be grateful for.
Surround Yourself With The Right People
People who are emotionally wealthy and happy know that one of the keys to success in life is surrounding themselves with like-minded people.
Hanging around with negative people who discourage you will bring you down. They will plant seeds of doubt in your mind, waste your time, and prevent you from reaching your goals quicker.
This is because energy is infectious – especially negative energy. To be happier, you should keep the company of honest, driven and positive people.
Value Your Time
If you are wasting your time on things that offer you no value and don’t assist with your personal growth, you might find that it’s difficult to attain emotional wealth and happiness.
Eliminate the things in your life that are killing your time. Find out what enhances your life the most and double down on it.
How to be emotionally healthy? What art your best tips?