10 Dating Mistakes That Girls Make On A First Date
Want to avoid the 10 most common mistakes that girls make on a first date? Join Beauty and Tips as we take a look.
Dating can be hard. Not only do we get super duper nervous before a first date, with questions such as “will he like me?”, “does this dress look good on me?” ringing through our heads, there are also a whole heap of calamitous first date mistakes we could make that would be a major turn-off for him. Perhaps you’ve already made a few mistakes yourself. Maybe you’ve been on a few first dates, assumed they went well – but then found out later that he doesn’t want to see you again.
If you want your next date to go swimmingly, let’s take a look at 10 dating mistakes girls make on a first date – and which you need to avoid.
Being Too Available
Your first date with a guy is coming up. He’s asked if you want to meet, and you said Yes! Then, he asks when you’re free.
“Anytime!” you say excitedly. “You just name a time and place, and I’ll be there.”
While this might be true, it doesn’t send out a good impression to a guy. Like it or not, guys love to chase women. They don’t want you to make this easy for them. A lot of guys see wooing you as a competition, and they actually want you to make them work hard. If you’re too available and give him no reason to put any effort in, he’ll quickly be put off.
Worrying How It Went
“Is it okay that I did that?”
“Did you enjoy the date? Really?”
“Do you want to meet again? When?”
As the first date comes to a close, it’s natural to want to know how we did. Did he like us? Did he have a good time? Did you laugh too much, talk too much? However, worrying over all the details can be a real mood-killer if you let it spill out into questions. Now is not the time to get anxious. Be confident that it went well, and that he had a great time. Text him later in the week to find out.
Turning Up Late
We know that girls are always late. If there were statistics for how many girls were late to a first date, it would probably be 70% of them. If there were a statistic for how many of those 70% got a second date, it would probably be less than half. You know that guys expect you to be late (you’re coming all the way from Venus, after all). But that doesn’t mean they’ll tolerate it. Being late on a first date gives off a very bad impression. It suggests a lack of care, respect and enthusiasm, and can put the dampener on things before the date has even got going – especially if you’re really late. For your first date, try your hardest to be on time.
Talking Yourself Down
“I was surprised you wanted to meet me. After all, who wants to date me?”
A lack of self-esteem is really off-putting. Keep such thoughts to yourself on a first date.
Talking In A Monologue
You’re interested in him and you like to talk. But talking in a monologue is talking at him, rather than with him. If you find yourself talking for long periods at a time, check yourself and ask him a question.
Asking No Questions
Guys usually take charge on dates, but the problem is that some girls expect them to do all the work. And so the guy ask all the questions, while the girl plays it all calm and relaxed, answering questions but asking none.
Maybe you think you shouldn’t be asking him questions, or perhaps you’re too nervous to ask any, or perhaps you literally can’t think of any. However, if you don’t ask him any questions, he’s going to get pretty bored. Worse still, he’ll assume you’re not interested in him.
Asking Too Many Questions
The opposite to asking no questions is asking too many. Nobody wants to be interrogated on a first date. If it feels like you’re firing out a series of stock, pre-planned questions, it’s going to irritate and unsettle him. Toss a few questions in there now and then when the conversation looks like it’s dying, but otherwise just let the convo flow as naturally as possible.
No, we’re not saying that being too negative is a dating mistake that girls make on a first date. We’re saying that being negative full-stop is a massive dating mistake. Guys don’t want to hang out with girls who put a downer on things – especially on a first date! If you enter self-loathing and self-pitying territory, you’re entering very dangerous territory. Keep away from negative subjects. Don’t moan. Don’t criticise. Don’t wish your life was better. Don’t have a existential crisis in front of him. Be positive, happy and smiley!
Talking About Your Ex
Even if you want to criticise your ex or make fun of him, don’t do it. And especially don’t mention your ex along the lines of, “oh, my ex and I used to come here.” It’s a major mistake that will make him feel uncomfortable. Any talk – including trash talk – of your ex gives your date the impression that you’re not over him.
And if you’re talking about your ex on a first date? You’re probably not over him.
Checking Your Phone Too Much
Checking our phone is a habit. Since everyone checks their phone these days, you probably don’t even think it’s that much of a big deal to do it on a first date.
Checking your phone frequently can knock him out of his stride. He loses focus and gets the impression that you’re not keen. Respect him and respect the occasion by avoiding your phone. If you know you’ll find it tough, switch it off beforehand.
What are your favourite first date tips?