First date tips: 10 First date mistakes to avoid
First impressions are lasting ones and sometimes, first date mistakes make all the wrong impressions. Nerves, unfamiliarity or even just downright bad luck, can all add up to make a date neither of you will forget for a long time, even if you want to, so check out our ten first date tips and most common mistakes that people make on first dates that you should try and avoid:
1. Checking out the talent
Keep your eyes on your date and don’t be distracted by the gorgeous hunk that just walked through the door. You’re really not going to do much for your date’s self-confidence or your chances of a second date, if you spend all evening checking out the eye candy, will be 1 out of million.
2. Getting drunk
Let your date get to know the real you, before you let him/her see the tipsy you. You might be tempted to drink to calm your nerves a bit, but be careful, it doesn’t take much to tip the balance between being calm and being over the top, and this is the impression of you that will stay in your date’s mind.
3. Don’t be late
One of the most important first date tips is – don’t be late and value the other person’s time. Sometimes, being late is completely unavoidable, but, normally, there really is no excuse. If this date is important enough to you, you would leave enough time for missing a bus or finding a cab harder than you expected. Leaving your date out in the cold for an hour is not going to be a good start.
4. Put your phone away
To see some people in restaurants and coffee shops, you’d think that they have been surgically attached to their phones. You can leave it alone for a few hours, you know, and it will show your date that you are genuinely interested in them and that they are more, than just an irritating distraction from your busy texting schedule and Facebook browsing.
5. Leave your ex where they belong, in the past!
One of the good first date tips is – leave your ex in the past! There is a simple, number one rule, when on a date and that is not to even mention your ex. There is no way that it can be relevant to a conversation with this new person and they’re not interested anyway. What’s worse, on a first date, then to make the new person think that you didn’t get over your last relationship yet, and that will make them think twice about going out with you again.
6. Don’t let confidence become arrogance
Our first date tips also include being confident. Confidence is attractive, but overconfidence can be interpreted as arrogance, so be sure not to hog the conversation and assume that you are always right about everything. It needs to be a ‘two conversation’ and it’s a chance to get to know one another, not a chance for you to show how clever you are!
7. Avoid talking about money
If you boast about how much money you have, your date may feel inferior. If you moan about your lack of it, then your date might be thinking ‘gold digger’. So, in other words, there is no good way to bring money into a first date conversation without potentially giving the wrong impression, so it’s best just to avoid this topic altogether.
8. Stay clear of politics and religion too
On a par with money, politics and religion are the two other first date topic minefields. Left wing, right wing, Christian or atheist, these are the topics that cause wars; let these alone, or it can ruin your chances of a second date!
9. Be assertive, but not aggressive
You want to let your date know that you can stand on your own two feet, but you don’t want your first date with this person to end in an argument. Keeping your cool and being able to agree to disagree will help you come across as confident in your own skin, without making you appear to be over-argumentative.
10 Be decisive
At the end of your date, don’t be afraid to say what you think, if you really want to see the person again. It might be that your date is nervous about suggesting it as well and, if neither of you work up the courage to say something, you could both end up regretting it.
First date can be really fun, so just be yourself and enjoy your time in the company of this new person, who knows, may be he/she is ‘the One’?!
Do you have some other first date tips to share? Please, feel free to do so in the comment section below.
Stay happy, love and be loved!