10 Things to consider before you start dating your best friend
You would have thought that moving a relationship from the status of a best friend to that of a date would be a fairly easy thing to do, but, if you’ve never done that before, then you might be in for some surprises. When you start to date a guy that you have been friends with for a long time, things can get pretty tricky and awkward, so consider these ten things that can happen, before you start dating your best friend.
1. It’s usually a one way ticket
The first thing to bear in mind, before you start dating your best friend, is that, once you have crossed that line, it will be very hard to go back again. If you split up with a boyfriend, the usual advice is to cut all ties with him, and that is going to make it impossible for you to go back to being just good friends.
2. There will be none of chase and first date fun
All the preliminary work will have been done, so there’re will be no chase, no first date and no voyage of discovery with each other. You might even find yourself feeling disappointed with the arrangement and thinking that the only real difference is that you now go to bed together sometimes.
3. Getting naked together might feel awkward
You may have known this guy for years and even possibly grown up with him. You might think of each other as brother and sister, so when you begin to become intimate, it might feel weird, or even wrong.
4. You will have shared embarrassing secrets with him
It’s quite likely that you will have told your best friend things that you would never have told a date. You will probably have shared things about your exes with your best friend, that you would rather prefer your current boyfriend never knew about.
5. You will lose a best friend
Who will you turn to now, when you need a bit of advice on your current relationship? Really good friends are rare to come by, so think carefully, before you take this risk with the best friend that you already have.
6. You will start to behave differently around one another
The dynamics of the relationship will change quite significantly when you start to date your best friend. You will now feel that you need to look your best for him and be on your best behaviour all the time. The relationship will probably not feel as relaxed, as it used to be.
7. It could be awkward with family
If you have been friends since childhood, then that could make both of your families feel a bit awkward about the situation. After all, sleepovers are going to be a whole different ball game now, aren’t they?
8. He will know all about all your exes and your crushes
You will have told him all about the fact that you have held a crush for his best male friend for years. The fact that he knows your thoughts about other people might make it embarrassing now, when you meet those people as a couple.
9. You might have to break his heart
If things turn out to be a big disappointment, then you might find yourself having to break the heart of someone you have been very close to for many years. This time around, you will have to hurt your best friend, as well as split up with your boyfriend.
10. It really is a big risk to take
Dating your best friend could turn out to be the best thing that you ever did and you may both wonder why it took so long for you to do. Be aware, though, that things will be very different between you when you become boyfriend and girlfriend, and you could end up losing both a partner, as well as the best friend you ever had. But, anyway, where love is – anything is possible!