10 Things that can ruin a date in the blink of an eye
Dating can be tricky, whether it’s a first date or you’re celebrating an event with a long term partner. No matter what the situation is, it can be easy to ruin the night with one little mistake, so read this list of 10 things you should never do on a date:
1. Show up late
Sometimes there’s a good reason for being late to an event but try to avoid it as much as possible, because it makes it look as though the person you’re meeting isn’t important to you. If you know you’re running late ahead of time, do the courteous thing and call or send a text to let them know.
2. Talk about exes, in details
This kind of stuff can come up if it needs to when having discussions, but a date is not really the appropriate time. You should be focusing on each other instead.
3. Text and social media
On that note, keep off your phone for the few hours that you’re together. It’s not as hard as you might think and you won’t be distracted by any outside sources, while you’re supposed to be getting to know each other and spending time together.
4. Pick a fight and get passionate about it
Again, there might be things you need to discuss in your relationship, but a date is not the right time to do it. Put it on hold until tomorrow, because it might turn into a fight and ruin your whole evening.
5. Act like you’re at a job interview
When you’re getting to know each other, you might have planned some things you wanted to say, which is fine but remember to go with the flow a little bit. You don’t want to sound like you’re selling yourself.
6. Not being interested in what your date has to say
Remember to try to keep the conversation going and let your date talk about themselves too, don’t ignore what they have to say. Ask them questions and genuinely listen to what they are saying or you’ll come across as selfish.
7. Pick an inappropriate venue
The venue will depend on how long you’ve been together and what kind of date you need to go on together. For example, you might not take a first date to a romantic and highly expensive restaurant and you might not suggest bowling for your five year anniversary. Think about what venue suits the occasion and do some research, if you need to.
8. Complaining and nagging
You might feel like you need to unwind, maybe you’ve even had a bad day, but try to let it go and concentrate on the present. There’s nothing wrong with a little venting but don’t spend the entire date complaining and nagging or nobody is going to have a good time.
9. Being too straight forward
If you’re just getting to know each other, try not to be too heavy on bodily contact or you might make the other person feel uncomfortable. You don’t need to rush into anything physical before you’re ready, so there’s no need to start the seduction process. If you are already at that stage of your relationship, try to hold off on the smooth talk until the end or you’ll look like you’re in a hurry to end your date. Having a good time together will make you both feel great without anyone having to put on an act.
10. Be too passive and indifferent
At the same time, acting too casual can make you look as though you aren’t really interested. In relationships, it’s important to let yourself be a little vulnerable and be able to put yourself out there a bit. Find the right balance but above all, just be yourself.
Do you have some other dating tips to share? What are other things that can ruin a date in the blink of an eye, on your opinion?