10 Signs of a good boyfriend
It’s the question we’ve all squared up to in the past:
“Sure he’s hot and got a great personality and OMG that hair, but would he actually make a great boyfriend?”
There are certainly many men who look great on paper – such as Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Jake Gyllenhaal, Channing Tatum, and okay I’ll stop now (Johnny Depp) – but they don’t always measure up once we start dating them.
“I didn’t know you smoked, hunted, had anger management issues and are still hung up on your ex?” – we ask sadly after the first date. “I thought you were just smoking hot and worked out.”
The good news, though, is that you don’t have to go through all the time and effort of dating your crush over and over to see whether or not he’d make a great boyfriend. Instead, there are at least 10 signs that can help you make up your mind. Let’s take a look at them.
He’s Committed To Meeting Up
A surefire sign that your crush is boyfriend material is if he goes out of his way to meet up with you. Especially on your own turf.
We’ve all dated those guys who are a bit coy about coming over to our patch, and they never seem sure about meeting up. They’re always busy doing something, but if your crush is willing to put the effort in, you can guarantee that he’s probably a keeper.
Especially if he still makes time for you despite a punishing schedule.
He Makes You Howl With Laughter
One of good signs of a good boyfriend is when he really knows how to make you laugh.
Crushes are really nice to look at, but when there is no substance, it’s much better that they remain simply a poster on our bedroom wall.
A boyfriend needs to be more than a looker. He needs to be able to make you laugh and smile, raise your spirits when you feel down and make you cherish every moment with him.
As handsome as crushes are, sometimes dreamy guys are often effortlessly dull, who care more about their hair than anything else.
He Talks To Your Friends
A guy who is only here for the fun times and not the long times is certainly not going to make much of an effort with your friends. He might give them a polite “hello,” but he’s not really interested in getting to know you.
However, if you’re going to be dating him, you really need him to get on with your friends. Let’s face it, there will be times when you want to go out with both your boy and your friends, so you need them to get along.
He Wants To Meet Your Parents
Why on earth would a guy want to be put through the ringer by your dad if he’s not serious about you? Rather than star in his own version of Meet The Parents, he’s going to do all that he can to stay well away from your dad’s probing questions about his past relationships, his job and his personal finances.
As such, a really easy way to figure out if your crush has relationship potential, ask him if he wants to have dinner with you and your parents. If he makes his excuses again and again, it’s a red alert sign that he’s not interested in anything long-term. You need to be with someone who’s cool with your family.
He Is Reliable
Reliability is another one of important signs of a good boyfriend.
There is nothing more off-putting than an unreliable boyfriend who doesn’t text back or call back within a reasonable time-frame. Perhaps your new man disappears a lot, has way too many ups and downs, and is often cancelling dates. If so, he’s clearly not got his head sorted out and is best remembered as a cute crush you used to have.
He Listens To Your And Encourages You To Have Dreams
If a man isn’t on the level with you, he probably doesn’t even care what dreams you have.
“Yeah baby becoming a neuroscientist sounds cool, let’s kiss.”
You need someone who is going to be by your side, and who will support you at all times, no matter how big your dreams may appear.
Dating someone who doesn’t understand your ambitions and long-term goals isn’t really all that wise because they might unsteady your ship and take you away from your long-term goals and plans. They might prove to be more than just a distraction. They might change your life for the worse.
Getting a guy to open up to us about their hopes and fears is not easy, and if your man is nothing more than a crush you probably won’t find out much about him beyond who is favourite football team is.
If, however, this guy is in it for the long haul, he’ll be prepared to have those late-night heart-to-hearts in which he makes himself vulnerable for you. It’s another one of clear signs of a good boyfriend.
He Doesn’t Play Games
If after several dates, you still don’t know what this guys intentions are, it’s probably that he’s just playing games with you because he doesn’t even know himself what he wants.
As such, he might make an awesome crush, but he makes a lousy boyfriends.
The problem with crushes is that we expect a lot from them because we’ve built up an ideal version of them in our minds. So when they don’t act as we want them to do, we feel a crushing disappointment. If he’s still playing hide and seek after a few dates, it’s probably best to give up the ghost.
He Protects You
One of great signs of a good boyfriend is when he knows how to protect you. He doesn’t possess you, but he does protect you, and this is something we all want our man to do.
If he is boyfriend material, your man will frequently ask if you’re okay and will do anything he can to make sure you feel safe and comfortable around him. He’ll put his arm around you during a movie, and he’ll also be there for you when your car breaks down.
He Makes First Moves
If it constantly feels like it’s always you who is texting and calling first, as well as arranging dates and meet-ups, it’s probably because he’s really easy and sees this as nothing more than a way to fill up some time.
If, however, he often texts first and even calls you up now and then, you can take this as a concrete sign that someone is totally into you.
What are signs of a good boyfriend? What are your thoughts?