10 Great tips to help you get back into the dating scene
Being single is fine, but there comes a time, when you have dusted yourself down, and come to terms with what has happened that you decide it’s time you get back out there again, back on the dating scene. But where do you start? Have you lost the knack, lost the confidence or just forgotten where to begin? If this is you, then read these ten tips and we’ll help you get you back into the dating scene:
1. Make sure that you are ready
Jumping straight back on the horse sounds like good advice, but don’t jump too soon. The end of a relationship can be a very emotional time, so make sure that you have allowed enough time for the healing, before you leap straight back into dating and get hurt again.
2. Get into the mood
Feel like you are ready? Well, before you even start again, make sure that you are in the right frame of mind. Gear yourself up; firstly to have fun and then, secondly, to find a partner and in that order! You need to put the past to one side and lighten up, or you will be the worst date ever!
3. Go back to basics
Sometimes the very best place to start is back at the beginning. Think about the places that you used to go and the things that used to do, when you were last dating, and start there. It’s as good a place as any.
4. Make sure that you understand what it is you want
Decide on what it is you are looking for and then you can set your own boundaries. You may want to start with some, no strings attached type of companionship, and then progress later to something more serious. Just be sure, in your own mind, what the objective is, and that will make it easier to achieve.
5. Let fiends know that you are back on the scene
Don’t keep it a secret; let your friends know that you are on the scene again. Get the word out and opportunities might come from unexpected sources like a friend of a friend or even someone that you know, but had never considered for a date before.
6. Remind yourself that it is a numbers game
It’s unlikely that date number one will be the one, so don’t go rushing into a relationship with the first guy that you meet. Keep your options open for a while and play the field. There is no rush, so make sure that he is right for you, before you make any commitment.
7. Keep an open mind
Don’t jump to conclusions. It will be easy to make comparisons to your ex and think that, just because a guy is different from your ex, he is not right. This is a new start, so be prepared to try new things.
8. Look nice, for you
Prepare for dates by making yourself look nice for you, not just for your date. The secret is to look good to feel good, not just to impress. That way, you feel better about yourself, be more confident and therefore you also will be naturally more attractive.
9. Get out and mix
It goes without saying that you will need to get out, if you want to meet new people. It doesn’t need to be all singles bars and speed dating. Join a club or take on new hobbies. There are other singles are everywhere, not just where you expect to find them.
10. Go online
Online dating sites are no longer the sole preserves of sad and lonely computer geeks! Many people use online dating now to find partners now, because it is easy and, quite simply, it saves time. Half the match making effort is made for you, so why not give it go.
Do you have some other dating tips to share?