10 Bad flirting moves that you should avoid using
There’s nothing wrong with a bit of subtle flirting, so long as you aren’t doing any of the 10 things on this list!
1. Playing too hard to get
This is an old fashioned flirting technique that mothers like to tell their daughters and the basic premise is that men enjoy being challenged and will therefore be more interested, if they have to work hard for winning a girl’s heart; as this might be true in some cases, most guys nowadays don’t like to chaise a girl for too long and they might understand your signals of ‘hard to get’ as ‘not interested at all’, so be aware of it and make sure not to overdo it!
2. Playing easy to get
On the opposite end of the spectrum, you don’t want to be too blunt with your flirting. Trying to be too suggestive or provocative will just be obvious and you might even come across as desperate.
3. Being too mean
Light teasing can be fun but it really depends how well you know the person. If you’re trying to establish something new, you might just come across as being snarky. You might think it makes you look cool but sarcasm won’t get you very far.
4. Being too nice (with a secret agenda)
Have you ever heard of the friend zone? It’s when you are always trying to be extremely nice to someone and do favors for them only to have them tell you that they aren’t interested in you that way and only want to be friends. Here’s the thing though: being nice to someone doesn’t make you entitled to their love. Be nice for the sake of being nice, not because you’re trying to hook in with someone, because it won’t necessarily work anyway.
5. Cyber flirting
While it can be less scary to flirt via text messaging and social media, it’s not going to work long term. It can be a good starting point, but if you do all your flirting via technology and can’t show up the goods in real life, it’s never going to happen.
6. Buying their love
Gifts are nice but they do not equal flirting. Spending money to try to win someone’s affection is a dangerous move, because you might end up with someone willing to take advantage and leaving you financially worse off.
7. Fake laughter
There’s nothing wrong with being polite when someone is trying to make a joke, but if you overdo it, you’re going to look fake. Or even worse, they’re going to think you find them hilarious and you’ll have to keep it up long term.
8. Over the top compliments
Everyone likes praise but if you overdo it, you can either come across as phoney or just make the person feel a lot of pressure to live up to the traits you’ve given them.
9. Too much touching
If you don’t know someone very well, touching too much can make them uncomfortable. Little taps on the elbow or hand when they say something funny is one thing but you don’t want to try to hold their hand or put your arm around them too quickly or they’ll think you’re clingy.
10. Moving too fast
You might just be excited about your crush but it’s easy to get ahead of yourself. Try not to go too far talking about future dates, plans and goals, when you’re only just getting to know each other. It’s fine to fantasise but keep it to yourself!
Do you have some other dating and flirting tips to share?