10 Reasons why you shouldn’t accept back a cheater
Have you ever been cheated on and tried to forgive and forget? Finding out that you’ve been cheated on by your partner is truly a horrible feeling. All that trust, belief and what you thought was love, is stripped away and it leaves you feeling like the bottom just dropped out of your world. Some people do try and forgive though, but there are many reasons why you should not. Here are ten of those reasons, why it really is better not to let a cheater back into your life:
1. You will forever be worrying about it happening again
Forgiving him is almost as good, as giving him the green light to do it again. Not all cheaters will re-offend, but once he got away with it once, it will be even easier for him, the second time around and you will always be wondering, where he is and who is he with.
2. Taking him back is just taking the easy option
You might think that taking him back is being strong and fighting for the relationship, but actually it is the easiest option. But then you’d be letting him walk all over you, and you are worth more than that.
3. Things can only go downhill from here
If you make a clean break, then you can get a fresh start and move on. If you take him back, then you are probably just prolonging the pain. Things will only get worse, with arguments, mistrust and recriminations, from here on.
4. You could be risking your health
If your man has cheated just the once, or if he is a serial cheat, you are increasing your own chances of picking up a disease. Not a nice thought, but one that has to be considered.
5. He’ll never respect you again
If he had respected you at all, then he never would have cheated on you in the first place and, if you let him back into your life again, he will respect you even less. You’ll be setting a precedent that says that it’s acceptable to lie and to deceive, so the chances are that he will do it again.
6. You can do better than this
You deserve to be with a man that you can trust wholeheartedly and not one who has let you down. Any breakup is hard, but now you can go and find a man who will really love you and treat you with the respect that you deserve.
7. Cheating is just a symptom, not the illness
If he cheated on you, then something is either very wrong with him or very wrong with the relationship. If someone really loves another person, then they could no more cheat on them than they could physically harm them. You just don’t do that to someone you love.
8. Would he have forgiven you, if the tables were turned?
It is often the case with cheaters, that they themselves, would hate it, if they were the ones being be cheated on. It’s a double standard that you shouldn’t be putting up with.
9. You lose your own self-respect
If you take back a cheater, then a piece of your own self-respect will have been taken away from you. Would you advise your best friend to take back their cheating husband? Or would you expect them to have more self-respect than that?
10. The relationship will never be the same again
Once the sense of trust between you and your partner is lost, it will be very difficult, if not impossible, to ever regain it. This will probably change your whole relationship, for the worse, and those nagging doubts will always be with you. So think carefully do you really need all this mess in your life?
What are your thoughts on this subject?
Stay happy and love yourself!