10 Habits of couples in healthy and happy relationships
Falling in love is the easy part; it’s turning that love into a long lasting and meaningful relationship that takes the time and effort. If you want your relationship to blossom into something more than just a brief love affair, you are both going to need to develop some healthy habits that will cement the relationship and make it strong, and don’t think that it’s going to happen overnight. When you are with someone for a long time, if you follow some basic guidelines, you can build a strong bond that will last. Here are ten of the habits that couples in healthy and happy relationships have found create that long lasting love that you will need.
1. Get quality time together
You will have heard that it’s important for couples to get quality time together, but what exactly does that mean? Quality time means time where you can actually interact with each other and share the events of the day or discuss plans for the future. One way that you can make this happen is to eat your evening meals at a table and not sat on the couch in front of the TV. There’s nothing wrong with chilling out in that way together, but you are never going to have a real conversation, if you don’t shut off all the distractions sometimes.
2. Go to bed at the same time
Making the effort to go to bed at the same time will help a relationship in two ways. When you get into bed at the same time it gives you a chance to get close and have a kiss and a cuddle. It also means that you are awake together at the same times in the evenings, so you have more time to talk to each other. If one of you always goes to bed before the other, you end up spending quite a lot of free time not even being in the same room.
3. Connect with each other during the day
Most people have really busy schedules and, if you are not careful, you will become like ships passing in the night with barely a word spoken to each other. One simple way to make sure that you stay connected is touch base with each other, at least once during every working day. It could just be a brief text message at lunchtime or perhaps a phone call when you finish work. Just make it a habit to connect during the day so you stay in touch, even when you are apart.
4. Show your appreciation
You appreciate your partner being around, so let them know this, every single day. People who are in happy and healthy relationships don’t take each other for granted; they show their appreciation through simple gestures like surprise gifts and kind deeds. Make it a habit to tell your partner how much you love them and how much you enjoy being with them, at least once every day, because we all need to know that we are wanted.
5. Show your respect
Happy couples never forget to retain their respect for one another. Respect means the simple things like turning up at the time you say you will as well as the more important promises like staying faithful. It also includes never being hurtful or spiteful and talking down to your partner.
6. Develop common interests
Everyone needs their ‘me time’, and their own circle of friends, but happy couples also know the importance of sharing things too. It’s important to find activities that you can enjoy together as well as your own individual pastimes and hobbies. If you don’t, you could find yourselves spending more of your free time apart than together and that certainly wouldn’t be healthy for the relationship.
7. Make decisions jointly
When making decisions that will affect both of you, you need to take account of what you both want. There should be no one person in a relationship who is responsible for taking all the decisions, so make a habit of sitting down and discussing things before any important decisions are made. This is just a part of that all-important good communication that needs to be present in a healthy relationship.
8. Fight fair and argue about the important issues
Every couple will have some arguments, but happy couples don’t have serious fights over minor things, like what to watch on TV, or whose turn it is to clean up the dishes after dinner. Learn how to compromise over the small issues and, when a disagreement is a serious one, fight fair and don’t resort to name calling and threats. The best result of any argument is one where both sides are happy with the solution and no one feels like they are the absolute loser.
9. Share the chores
In a happy and healthy relationship, it’s usual to share the chores, and it’s even better if you can do them together. One thing’s for sure, it’s not a good idea to assume that one person will do all the work around the home. Most couples do tend to have the jobs that each one prefers to do, but if you can do them together, you can make chores more fun and you will get some extra time together as well.
10. Never stop having fun!
The overriding thing that you will notice about happy couples that still enjoy doing things together and they still have fun. They make the effort to go out on dates, go on holidays together, and share things at home too. Make it a habit to do something fun together at least once a week and don’t fall into the trap of allowing the relationship to become stale and boring.
What are your best happy relationship tips? Feel free to share them in the comment section below.