10 Tips For Knowing Yourself Better, Thus Acquiring Wisdom
Want to know more about yourself so that your life takes on the direction you really want it to? In this article we take a look at 10 tips for knowing yourself better so that you acquire more wisdom.
If you don’t know yourself, it’s very hard to live a consistent life that brings you happiness. Without knowing who you are, what you want, and what your values are, it’s easy to just drift carelessly through life, making bad decisions and paying for the consequences.
If you take a look at happy people, they might not always look obviously successful to you at first sight. But importantly, they know themselves.
This is a big difference between fulfilled and unfulfilled people. The more knowledge and wisdom you have about yourself, the more content and fulfilled you become. Without such intimate knowledge, you may feel lost, unsure, and you may find yourself making mistakes all the time.
So let’s take a look at 10 tips that will shine a stronger light on who you are.
Write Down Your Values
What dictates every single decision we make in life? For happy, successful people who know themselves, it’s their values.
For those of us who don’t know what our values are, our decisions are made according to how we feel at a particular moment in time. As a consequence, the decision we take may turn out to be disastrous for our longer-term happiness, and we may regret it as soon as the next day.
Knowing what your values are means you will make decisions that are in accordance with them, which means they will benefit you in the longer term.
A lot of people aren’t aware of what is most important to them, because they’ve never taken the time to think about this. Now is the time for you to put some time aside to think about it.
What matters the most to you in your life? Values can be many things. Some examples include:
Whenever you’re faced with a decision to make in the future, you can think about your values and make a decision that’s in accordance with them.
Knowing what your values are gives you a deeper insight into who you are.
Watch Your Own Movie
Your life has been turned into a movie. What would it look like and how would it make you feel? Does it make you squirm to see how you treated an ex? Does it make you sad to see how people walk all over you? What are the recurring themes here? What is the constant pattern of your life?
How can you know where your limits and boundaries are if you don’t take risks?
A lot of people go through life saying “I could never do that.”
But how do we know we could never do that unless we try?
As humans, we learn a lot about our character and potential when placed in adverse situations.
So take yourself out of your comfort zone. Push yourself and see how far you can go. You might find that you’re stronger and more resilient than you realised.
What Motivates You?
Motivation is the prime driver that causes us to get up and DO things. It’s what causes artists to make the straight decision between being an artist or starving. It’s what causes entrepreneurs to give up everything they have and start their own business. These are motivated people.
We all have different motivations. The entrepreneur is motivated by the desire for freedom. The health fanatic is motivated be a desire to feel more energetic and vital in the moment, and to reduce their risk of long-term disease.
What motivates you? Knowing this can help you to act on your motivations so that you achieve what you want from life.
Find Out What Makes You Special
We all have a certain something that marks us out from the crowd; it makes us unique and special. What’s your one thing?
Find what it is that makes you different and use it as your unique selling point. Celebrate it and make it your thing.
What Do You Love?
A lot of us spend a lot of time talking about what we hate in life. When we get together with friends, it’s fun to set the world’s to rights by chatting about the things we hate.
“I hate that new song from Beyonce. And what has she done with her hair?”
But what about the things you love? What gives you great joy, what makes you smile?
Knowing what you’re grateful for can give you a big insight into the type of person you are. If you discover that you’re not really grateful for anything, it might be time to start being more thankful.
Find Out How Others Perceive You
You might think you know who you are. But until you find out how other people perceive you, you could still be miles off.
You might dismiss what others think of you, saying that you don’t care. But if you really want to understand yourself, you need to know how you present yourself to others.
Other people can see your flaws. They know what makes you tick, what makes you uncomfortable, what makes you angry and so on. They often know you better than you know yourself.
You might know you have the potential to be this or that. But until you iron out the mistakes you’re making in front of other people, you’ll fail to make good on that potential. Ask your friends what they think about you. Listen to what they have to say, accept it and then make the necessary changes.
A great way to find out more about yourself is to read books – lots of books. Non-fiction books including biographies, self-improvement and even spiritual books are good places to start when you’re trying to find out more about yourself.
Absorbing the knowledge of others can reveal to us more about ourselves. Read what other people have to say, and see if you realise that you relate to their lives more than you thought you would. You may find that their words tap into a previously uncovered part of your subconscious mind.
If it’s your funeral (IKR). A friend is reading out your eulogy. What are they saying? This thought might give you inspiration.