How to find a good guy?
I’ve been in the situation where you feel so dejected with dating that you’re ready to give up.
“There just aren’t any good guys out there anymore,” you lament.
Bad relationships will do this to you. After a while of dating Mr Wrong and Mr Cheater, it’s so easy to quit the dating scene for good and adopt some cats.
I know it’s hard to believe, but there are good guys out there. Lots of them, in fact. In America, there are 20,000,000 single men. Amidst all the frogs are some real princes. You just have to know where to look.
“Where?” I hear you asking.
So let’s take a look at 10 ways to find yourself a faithful guy.
I know, I know. You’re as sceptical as I once was about online dating. In fact, you might already have tried it, only to find that it just made you trust guys even less.
But there is no denying that for every bad online dating story is a fantastic one. More and more people are meeting their soul mate online. And if they can find the good guys, so can you.
When it comes to online dating, you have to be selective, and you have to know the red flags that should tell you whether or not a man is bad news. If you’re savvy enough, finding a faithful man online should be a cinch.
Do the bad guys who cheat on their partners volunteer at homeless shelters and soup kitchens? I think not!
Volunteering is a great way to meet new people – good people with big hearts who are ready to devote their time and energy to helping others.
People who volunteer tend to be open, kind, compassionate, warm, considerable, and emotionally available people who are faithful to their friends, family – and partners.
You can volunteer anywhere at any time, be it at a charity event or a homeless shelter.
As I write this, I’m reminded of a common expression:
“Birds of a feather, flock together.”
This means that cheaters will tend to hang around with like-minded people. Likewise, folk who are faithful to their spouses will likely hang around with faithful people.
Your friends should be people that you trust. Take a look around you and ask yourself if there is someone you’ve known for a long time that would make for a great partner.
Spend Some Time By Yourself
Spending some time by yourself might sound counter productive when it comes to meeting a man. After all, shouldn’t you be aiming to spend your time with other people? But hear me out.
Women usually go out in packs, and very rarely go out by themselves. But according to the author of The Vixen Manual, Karrine Steffans, this can actually blockade the good guys from getting to you.
“Not only can men be put off by a pack of women – or even two or three – but when they a woman who seems happy and content by herself, she’s so much more approachable and inviting.”
Go to relaxing places with warm atmospheres, such as coffee shops, country pubs or even libraries, and take a book with you. You never know what could happen.
Say Yes To Something Different
If you’ve been going to the same places and doing the same old things for the last year or so but find that you’re not meeting faithful and desirable men, you might want to have a rethink about these places you’re visiting.
Perhaps it’s now time to try something different. Instead of heading to the pubs and clubs each weekend, consider saying Yes to that cultured friend who’s been inviting you to the galleries and museums for the last ten years. Try your hand at networking events or anywhere else where good guys tend to frequent.
You have to look in places where you would expect a faithful man to hang out.
Dig Up The Past
People say we should never dig up the past and instead let sleeping dogs lie. But maybe there is a man from your past who you had a crush on, and who was as faithful as they get, but he was the one who got away?
There is nothing wrong in reconnecting with someone from your past who you think might be the One. You already know lots about him, and you know he’s going to be faithful. So what’s the worse that could happen?
Go To Church
Going to church is a good idea if you’re trying to find a faithful man. Men who go to church are naturally moral and ethical, as well as kind, compassionate and considerate.
Churches often have lots of social events that you can get involved in, which widens the chances of you meeting someone new.
Throw A House Party
It’s your house party and you can invite who you want. As well as inviting all your cool friends who share your values, you should also ask your friends to invite their other friends who also share your values.
Such a house party gives you a great opportunity to meet a new man who is on your level. As the host, you’ll introduce yourself to everyone who walks through your day, which means you can pick up a conversation with someone who takes your fancy later on in the night.
Go To A Friends Birthday Party
Kinda similar idea to the one above here. If your friends share your values, the chances are that their friends who you haven’t yet met share them too.
So the next time you’re invited out to a friend’s birthday party – go!
Perhaps most importantly of all, you have to be patient. Faithful guys are out there, but there are also a lot of losers. To make sure you don’t lose any more heart, take your time and don’t rush into things. Don’t waste time dating the guys you’re not sure of but wait for the show stealer to come and sweep you off your feet.